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The Issue: When Overthinking Blocks Our Brilliance
Overthinking is often mistaken for responsibility, thoughtfulness, or professionalism—especially in high-achieving women. We review decisions from every angle. We hesitate before speaking. We double-check, triple-confirm, and rewrite emails twelve times before pressing send. We sit on ideas, hold back proposals, and wait for some imaginary moment when everything feels perfect.
But all that overthinking? It is not a strategy. It is self-doubt in disguise.
The root of overthinking is fear of being wrong, judged, or seen as "too much" or "not enough." The cost is enormous. It leads to missed opportunities, stifled creativity, emotional exhaustion, and a lack of presence. Women question their instincts, delay their actions, and talk themselves out of what they are called to do.
Learning to trust the “yes” inside you is not reckless. It is radical self-leadership. It is time to stop over-editing ourselves out of the rooms we belong in.
Why It Is Challenging
- Perfectionism is rewarded, even when it is harmful. Many women are praised for being meticulous, but underneath lies anxiety and indecision.
- Cultural pressure to get it right. Women are often judged more harshly for mistakes, so the stakes feel higher.
- Fear of taking up space. Speaking confidently or acting decisively can trigger fears of being “too aggressive” or “too bold.”
- Internalized voices of criticism. Years of social conditioning have trained many women to second-guess themselves.
- Confusing caution for wisdom. We are told to be careful when we are young, which often becomes hesitancy as we grow.
What We Can Do for Ourselves: Shifting from Doubt to Decisiveness
1. Recognize the Cost of Overthinking
Overthinking is not a harmless reflection. Overthinking drains time, energy, and confidence. Identify the “thought loops” that keep you stuck and write them down to create distance. Ask yourself: Is this productive reflection or fear-driven paralysis? Notice when overthinking becomes an excuse not to act. Awareness is the first step toward reclaiming your mental space.
2. Build a Practice of Self-Trust
Your intuition is not fluff. Intuition is data from your lived experience. Begin with small decisions: What do I want for lunch? What outfit feels right today? When faced with a choice, ask: “If I already knew the answer, what would it be?” Document your wins. Track what happens when you say yes with courage. Trust is a muscle: build it through use, not theory.
3. Take Imperfect Action
You do not need to be 100% ready to begin. Men often apply for jobs when they meet 60% of the criteria; why are we waiting for 100%? Progress builds clarity faster than planning ever will. Choose momentum over mastery: you will learn as you go. Confidence does not come before action. Confidence comes from action.
4. Set Boundaries with Your Inner Critic
When the critic shows up with doubts, name it: “This is fear, not fact.” Create a “criticism-to-curiosity” switch; ask, “What if this works?” instead of “What if I fail?” Visualize the version of you who trusts herself and borrows her mindset. Practice talking back: “I am allowed to choose without permission.” You do not owe your inner critic the final vote.
5. Celebrate the Yes
When you act decisively, celebrate the choice, not just the outcome. Journal about what it felt like to trust yourself and follow through. Share your bold moves with people who affirm and support your growth. The more you reinforce yes, the more natural it becomes. A trusted yes becomes the loudest voice in the room.
How to Support Others: Creating a Culture That Values Confident Decision-Making
1. Normalize Swift, Empowered Choices
Praise action-takers, not just perfectionists. Celebrate “imperfect progress” publicly to give others permission. Encourage a work culture that values learning over hesitation. Ask colleagues: “What is your gut telling you?” and then trust their answer. Honor decisions even when they evolve. Growth happens in the doing.
2. Disrupt the Fear of Being Wrong
Remove the shame from mistakes. Mistakes are part of bold decision-making. Reinforce that trying is a form of leadership. Say this often: “You do not need to prove yourself to be trusted.” Promote people who show initiative, not just caution. Challenge any environment that rewards overthinking as a virtue.
3. Coach Women Through Clarity, Not Just Caution
When asked for advice, reflect on their strengths, not just the risks. Ask: “What would you choose if you were not afraid?” Avoid “Are you sure?” and try “I support you either way.” Help them zoom out: “What is the worst-case scenario? And how would you handle it?” Guide them toward Trust, not toward more second-guessing.
4. Elevate Intuition as Intelligence
Recognize that women often possess relational, emotional, and situational wisdom. Acknowledge that not all smart decisions come from spreadsheets. Create space for gut checks in strategic planning. Teach that data and instinct can and should coexist. Say: "I trust your read on this," and then let that Trust be seen.
5. Celebrate Decisiveness Without Policing Tone
Do not ask women to sugarcoat their certainty. Resist telling confident women to “be careful” or “be nicer” mid-decision. Praise clear direction, even if it is bold, fast, or unconventional. Help others see that leadership can be both intuitive and informed. Let women be decisive without apology.
Say Yes, Then Go
You do not have to wait for certainty or ask for permission. The wisdom is already within you. Trust the yes and move.
Make the decision.
Take the step.
Let your yes be louder than your fear.
Overthinking keeps us silent. But trust? Trust makes us unstoppable.
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Claire Muselman
Meet Dr. Claire C. Muselman, the Chief Operating Officer at WorkersCompensation.com, where she blends her vast academic insight and professional innovation with a uniquely positive energy. As the President of DCM, Dr. Muselman is renowned for her dynamic approach that reshapes and energizes the workers' compensation industry. Dr. Muselman's academic credentials are as remarkable as her professional achievements. Holding a Doctor of Education in Organizational Leadership from Grand Canyon University, she specializes in employee engagement, human behavior, and the science of leadership. Her diverse background in educational leadership, public policy, political science, and dance epitomizes a multifaceted approach to leadership and learning. At Drake University, Dr. Muselman excels as an Assistant Professor of Practice and Co-Director of the Master of Science in Leadership Program. Her passion for teaching and commitment to innovative pedagogy demonstrate her dedication to cultivating future leaders in management, leadership, and business strategy. In the industry, Dr. Muselman actively contributes as an Ambassador for the Alliance of Women in Workers’ Compensation and plays key roles in organizations such as Kids Chance of Iowa, WorkCompBlitz, and the Claims and Litigation Management Alliance, underscoring her leadership and advocacy in workers’ compensation. A highly sought-after speaker, Dr. Muselman inspires professionals with her engaging talks on leadership, self-development, and risk management. Her philosophy of empathetic and emotionally intelligent leadership is at the heart of her message, encouraging innovation and progressive change in the industry. "Empowerment is key to progress. By nurturing today's professionals with empathy and intelligence, we're crafting tomorrow's leaders." - Dr. Claire C. Muselman
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