Losing it

[capricorn]

Thanks CC.....love you too.....my friend....we're just waiting patiently now for results of the biopsy.....not sure what to pray for so we're praying for the easy way out this time......cancer would be radiation...not too bad.....an infection could mean anti-biotics OR them taking the replacement out until the infection heals and doing it over....I don't think him or his body could take this....God be with him..


Badboy......I have told Christie to pull herself up by the bootstraps ....dust herself off.....hold her head up and shoulders back...and so far a strong young woman I have spoken to in the past couple of days.....I know she will still have her good and bad for awhile...but a great turnaround...

[bagpussinamerica]

Cappy, every one of us has different ways of reacting to a breakup. Obviously your daughter reacts in this way and there really isn't anything you can do to change that. But being there for her and supporting her and listening is the very best thing you can do. This guy is a jerk, but like everyone has said, you can't change the way she feels about him. You can give him a piece of your mind, but that could backfire as well. Again, he is not your problem. Hopefully he won't want to go back and she will go through the pain and come out the other side a little bit stronger. But you can bet that she will have this same problem with other break ups along the way. You can let her know that this is her way of reacting and that it won't change, but for every time you will be there for her. Tell her to start to get her support network in place for any other time this happens. That way she has lots of people to talk to. She will probably talk and talk and talk...saying all the same things over and over again and you will think when will this ever end and suddenly it does. She really does wake up one day and everything seems clearer and easier. I've been there, been through it. My daughter has been there, been through it. A lot of us have too. Again, just keep her safe, keep an eye out for any dramatic mood changes, and be there. Just about all you can do. And we will all pray that this ******* will trip and fall and hurt himself real bad. And that he keep the hell out of your daughters life!!!

[red1030]

Cap... I have not been on the forum recently due to some very busy days and needless activity that I don't need to get involved in. We are leaving on the 4th. I will send you a note to tell you what is happening ok...can't wait to have lunch dinner or whatever... I would love to meet your husband also.

Cap, I can't seem to write a lot about your daughter and what she is going because it brings back some less than desireable memories for me. It sounds like she is moving forward and I really liked Bagpussinamerica's comments... she I believe is right on the mark... give her time, love her continually, but also take care of you. She will turn around. She does need a network of friends. I know that Chris and Sophia are busy right now with the new baby and there is something about 40 days before the baby can go out.. so they are rather tied to the house except Chris goes to work etc. I am glad that Stella is staying close to her. Sophia is the one who told me that Stella and your daughter were best friends. I have seen pictures of her and she is beautiful. Hopefully in time she will find what she needs in her life that will enhance her life, not take away from it...relationships are never easy but some times there are things that just make them worst and it sounds as if she was in one such as that... my heart goes out to her.. loss is hard, but time heals all wounds. I will put her on my daily prayer list. Can't wait to see you Red

[capricorn]

BAg.....I also agree....wonderful post....thank you.....after a horrible day yesterday which came after 2 good days.....I couldn't take anymore. She cried and talked for 8 straight hours....keep in mind neither my husband or I are well......I did the best I could..then they started to text each other and I wanted to hit her, throw something at her or worse yet tell her to leave......Here is my turn on this....IF you want him ...take him as he is...stop trying to change him and complaining about everything he does THEN when he leaves turn my life upside down....this is the 4th breakup.....when they get along..they are meant for each other....BUT they both have this dysfunctional side that makes things like this happen....he siad she broke his heart too.....so now I fell as if there are definitely two sides to every story and don't want to say anything anymore...their relationship is between the two of them. I'm there for her BUT this BS needs to stop.....I ama nervous wreck....I've been up since 6:00..have a headache and she's still sleeping peacefully....my oldest told me to go wake her up and tell her to go home....I can't do that. Her and I will have a long talk when she gets up....they are taking another week off from each other...I suggest they both work on themselves through this time. I love you guys and don't know what I would do without you.xoxoxoxoxo