I need some strength, something

[bodybuilder1958]

My father is dying because he's given up. He frankly doesn't care anymore, he wants to die. It doesn't help that my stepmother fills his head with crap. Tells him the morning of his open heart surgery that she fell on the ice and probably won't be able to walk anymore. I talked to her doctor 2 weeks ago, she's cancer free even though she tells my dad that her cancer has returned. That she's going to die probably shortly after the first of the year. Then she has thyroid cancer but now is prostrate. Opps how's that Betty? You have a prostrate?

I'm torn right now between being really mad and something. She has the nerve to criticize me about not seeing my dad when he ignores you when you show up or tells you to get out. So I haven't seen him in 3 weeks and I feel so guilty about it. I feel even more guilty about not calling him but I don't know if he'll talk, cuss me out or just hang up.

I need to go beat up something really bad but I'm sick and that @#$% me off. Stupid old woman, stupid man. Life is too short, enjoy it to the best of your ability. I cannot take him wallowing in self pity. He's actually in very good heal physically, mentally he's totally given up. It's mainly because 2 years ago my stepmother wouldn't let them change his anti-depressant and mentally he's never recovered. He gets tired because he sleeps all day, he's only up about 4 hours a day except to go to the bathroom.

I'm so mad I could...stupid old woman. Thanks for letting me vent. She also doesn't understand that I live 42 miles away in each direction, I can't always just get into a car and drive. I will see him on Thursday afternoon. Unlike my other sister I don't work in the same city, heck I don't work at all.

Thanks for letting me vent, I still need to go beat on something, do I have a picture of my stepmother to throw darts at or something?

BB

[Cycler]

well, i know some people who know people......



Just sayin........

[Bummer Knees]

Sounds like what I went thru with my mom.

When mom asked to be forgiven for her behavior and wanted her daughters in her life, my oldest sister refused to have anything to do with her.

When my sisters and I were called to my mom's bedside when she was dying.....my oldest sister refused to show, and only showed after my mom died.

I had a step mom too....she was a witch!
But I will only share that story in person.

Now I guess I am the one venting.

[jayne]

BB,I cant tell you what to do....cuz I am a continual screw up when it comes to my Mom...she is angry at me right now because I wont recind the protection order so my nephew can come to the funeral....He started the whole downword sprial by cold cocking my Daddy.....forgive him yes I have done that..but he will never get close to the family again unless he wants to go to jail.....My mother says its time for family to forgive and forget......bull kaka....he can go to hades for all I care

[bodybuilder1958]

Well I feel better, thanks all, reading what you wrote, talking to my hubby and my middle sister. We all agreed on one thing, if my dad goes first she's on her own. My oldest sister had her doubts about her because of her sons', they had disowned her years before. We all know why, she's a horrible person. She'll be taken care of medically and funeral wise, we made sure of that because of my dad. But lift a finger, cry over her, no.

I tried for 4 years to help this woman, I bit my tongue, called her 'mom' for the sake of my dad. That ended almost 2 yrs ago. God I hope I never get that way, I want to enjoy life and enjoy people.
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I just want to die peacefully in my sleep like my grandpa, not screaming like his passengers did.

[halftrak]

I do have a dartboard and i did put a picture of my ex on it, I sometimes wish I had a voodoo doll.My ex mother in law sounds like your stepmom,and I too want to beat them both up.Hang in there, and you are a good person.

[jayne]

we knew a guy in Okla city who ran a BBQ joint...he had a toilet seat on the wall like a frame complete with glass....anyone on his crap list was put in this frame,,,moatly local politions were in there but his Momma in law stayed in there alot...

[Still in Limbo]

My Mom just recently had Cancer Surgery on Her Leg, and My 2 brothers, and My Sister-in-Laws were There, and I put My Emotions Aside for that Day, and Worried about My Mom and Dad. Now You have to Understand I haven't Spoken to My Sister-in-Law in 12 Years along with My Oldest Brother who I haven't Spoken to for 6 Years, and They Live on the Other Side of My Parents House. My Other Brother Lives in Virginia and it's been about 5 Years since I have Spoken to Him!! My Point being it was about My Mom's Surgery and Support for Dad. My Opinion Only, go to Visit, be Cordial to Your Step Mother, don't allow Her to Argue with You , Remember it takes Two to Argue, and You can Really Make Her Look like a Horses A** by not Arguing Back or letting Her get Your Goat, and if Your Dad Makes You Leave, You can at Least know in Your Heart that You Tried!! I haven't Spoken to My Brothers or Their Wives since, and May Never Again, unless it's needed for My Parents!! I know You are in a Rough Spot, but I Guess I just took the Attitude that I was going to do what Mom and Dad Needed, Regardless of Who was Around, and if They Spoke to Me I would Speak Back in a Decent Tone, and by No Means was I going to Drop to Their Level and Argue, and Thank God They Didn't Start Anything!!