To Tuffy

[capricorn]

Good morning my friend....I am so sorry about Fl. Once I let Hubby read the posts he felt instead of the forum being a refuge for me it was actually hurting me, because of what has happened a few times with Jayne. The part of the posting that bothered him and he really wants me to stay away from is the backsliding. When someone goes at another and then tries to slip out of it when called on it is a real soft spot with both of us. The same went on with that poor guy who smoked pot and had a dirty urine. He was bamboozled by several and then when Snowbear mentioned something about how mean it was, the backsliding started, and some changed their tune and tried to shuffle around what they had said. I experienced the same yesterday. I know we were talking about Limbo's brother and honestly if it were a sibling of mine and it was hurting my parents I would have done anything to change the situation. My situation is totally different. It's parent child /not sibling. I am so sorry I brought something into Limbo's thread that didn't belong there but I can't worry about every little thing I might put in the wrong place or maybe my answer doesn't fit. Jayne likes to back out of what she says to hurt. Last "tizzy" we had she deleted alot of her nasty comments to me, names she called me.....real quick so no one else could see them...but I did. This time she says she's only trying to help Limbo. Please read her post about "it's my mother and God intended for us to honor...." and you'll see what I mean. She wasn't talking to me???? Who then???? Helping Limbo with his brother??? BUT talking about my mother?????BS> There are more lies around here then I can remember. One day FL is hated and the next we can go another time and "maybe be alone with ADMIN" Who needs to be the center of attention??????I really don't like confrontation anymore and seem to get it when I least expect it, when I haven't asked for it and when I'm down already and don't need it especially here. Mostly when I give my opinion that's disagreed with. Thank God I didn't respond to the "red" envelopes. LOL because my "opinion" is that it is each individual's choice, not MR. Obama's.

I do have several friends here and they know who they are so I won't mention names, but most just don't post very often for the same reasons I won;t be around much.

Florida won't work for us now because there are only women going. Hubby will be very uncomfortable and bored. I understand I would feel the same as him and as you, doing so much work to plan something and then it falling through. We are thinking of being in FL that same week but staying somewhere else and going about our own business but maybe meeting up with you ladies for a day. I'll need some time to figure it out.

Since Hubby's cancer we have truly changed our way of living and thinking. I watched a show the other night about the tent camps that our Americans are living in after losing everything. Kids living in the street and going to school in the morning. It's horrible. I can't help enough. I send what I can everywhere I can. It isn't that bad here yet so there's no where to volunteer my time but when I can I will. In the meantime we have decided to travel. Just got back from Punta Cana, planned Florida in May, the Jersey shore with the kids and grandkids in July, Niagra falls in the very early fall and then maybe next April (our 15 anniversary) Italy. These are dreams but the good Lord has given us both a second chance and we are listening to Him. He comes through loud and clear.

Tomorrow is my deceased daughter's 33 birthday. I haven't seen her since she was 21. My PTSD goes back before her death but her passing is surely the icing on the cake. I am not triggered by crowds, but mainly by physical, emotional, and verbal hurts.

Thank you all for being there for me when I needed help. I am of no help to anyone here anymore so will probably pop in once in awhile. Will continue to keep all of you and your needs on my prayer list.

[Tuffy]

Cap, Grandma says, meeting up with the girls etc for a day of fun in the sun sounds like a good time. Unless of course we have to cancel the group getting together because of not enough participation. I will know more later, at least by April 3rd. Ya never know what can happen......... Will keep ya informed...

Sounds like you are doing what I would love to be able to do,, TRAVEL

[chrischris]

Hang in there Cap!