Good News Bad news...you decide

[red1030]

Hi my 31 YEAR OLD SON is getting MARRIED...... not sure about this. You know it is hard for a mother to let their daughters go, but this is much worse, he is my middle child, he is a giant in my eyes.. some because of course he is very very very tall...jayne you would be impressed I believe... he is 6'31/2 "...wears a size 13 - 14 shoe, can you believe a child this tall could be my son?...wow... but mostly he is a giant to me, because of his person. He was in the airforce for 10 years and during this time, at 2 our of 3 bases is was the airman of the year. One of these bases was in Okinawa and he was honored to meet the head of japan. He was hand selected to work where he works and they put him on a fast tract into management and that is where he is now. My Chris is just one great guy especially when I am ill. I simply love his person and who he has turned out to be. He picked up my traits that I like and he didn't pick up my traits I don't like. Additionally ..he is smart, handsome, at least the girls think so, etc etc etc..... anyway enough bragging, he just proposed to a Greek girl who lives in Phila which she does have lovely parents.

The bad news is simple... they are having a BIG BIG Big wedding with all the old time features. Of course the one that has me proud and yet a bit worried is the dance....I guess I have to dance with my son at the reception. The first thing I said is "Chris how am I suppose to dance, what if I am in this chair all the time then and even so I can't dance at all." He stated very simply to me, you are my mother, the mother who brought me into this world at 19, the mother who stayed up with me to make sure I did as well as I did in school even after a 16 hour day, the mother who brought me up with more good memories than I can even hope to give my children, the mother who taught me to be who the man is my fiance loves, You are going to dance with me. If you are in a chair... so what ...I will pick you up out of that chair and carry you in our dance with my arms and arms wrapped around each other. Then he said, this will be the best dance you and I have ever had. Then he said, "This is my way to tell the world that you are my mother the love of my life for 31 years.

No need to asked of course I just started crying. I really don't want to give him away....but then a little glimmer of reality hit me... I am going to get more grand children. Hopefully very soon... I know that is silly, but I had to find a way to stop crying and it worked... now in to the happy mode I went. So I am sure this is going to be good news... but have you ever seen the move..."the greek wedding?" wow...I hope we do better than that... she does have wonderful parents and wonderful sister and brothers... They have been here a few times for a dinner party. Love you all for reading my sentiments epecially.... love Red


[attachment=725] No this is not sophie..this is his oldest sister, Dawn... she is in Oregon...not fair..but I am dealing with it..... and praying she comes back to NJ soon... can't wait for that to happen.

[attachment=726] This is sophie and Chris... wish me luck and of course them...see how selfish I can be... horrible just horrible... love Red

[sweet tooth]

you have such a wonderful family how blessed you are

[Tuffy]

They are going to make beautifull children, and you are not loosing a son but gaining a daughter.............. Be happy for them as they are happy with each other.........

[RNvic]

Red,
Be happy that your son as found someone that you like and can love as a daughter. As far as the dance you should be so very proud of him, He sounds like a wonderful young man.

[red1030]

Hi all... thanks for your responses... thank you sweet tooth..I can't wait for you to meet them all.... come to NJ... ok... love, tuffy what about you... come here to visit once or twice a year...and be with all of us, you will love us... and we can go to Alantic City... bring Gail..lots of room... maybe you could paint or Gail could in my studio or make some scrapbook pages, .....RNvic..thanks for what you said..and yes my son is very considerate especially of me and everyone else. Sophie is a very lucky women...and I could not ask for more from a son .... love all of you Red

[Still in Limbo]

Hi Red!! How could Your Great Family getting Larger be a Bad Thing!? You are Truly Blessed with a Family that gives You Love and Support, and the Bigger the Better!! It Sounds like You Raised a Great Young Man there, and what You said about the Chair reminded Me of what Happened to Me Recently. When My Daughter Graduated on May 3rd, I told Her that I was going to Have to bring My Chair, and I Hoped that didn't cause a Problem for Her. My God how bad I felt when I saw My Daughters Eyes fill up with Tears, and She told Me that She could Never be Embarrassed by Me having to Use the Chair if that's what I meant. I felt so Bad, but this was the First Time I was going to be in a Large Group with My Own Chair, I usually use the Ones the Stores Provide because I don't have a Vehicle that I can take My Own Chair with Me. My Son put it in His Caravan and took it to the College for Me. She said if I was in My Hospital Bed, I was going to be at Her Graduation, no matter what it Took!! How Good does it Feel when Your Kids show You the Unconditional Love they have for Us, Something We sometimes Forget! This is a Great thing for You, and I'm Very Happy Your Family is Growing!!

[red1030]

Still ...as always, you have nailed my experience on the head... we both have great family's that will get us both through what ever awaits us in our future. I always appreciate your responses to my thread so much. Sometimes you say something and opps...my light comes back on...and my path is clear once again. I think you for that so much. As for my family, they are the light that I turn too when my heart is dumping about living in this world right now. They keep me going even with all the difficult things in my health that have been happening the past year. My son almost dares me not to be sick...does silly things to keep me going. For instance, the two years before I came on this board, I was asleep from 9 PM the night before until about 1-2 pm the next day in my bed. Then about 3-4 pm I laid back down on the couch and slept until my daughter and her husband came home... (this is my daughter who is in the first picture with Chris and now lives in Oregon), which was about 7 PM...then I would get up and eat something and play with Victoria my grand daughter..and be back in bed about 9 PM...depression is a very lethal combination with MS. My son would call every day to tell me to get up. About once a week he would say I am coming to get you mom and we are going for a ride. He always tried to get me out of the house. Other than going out for a ride with him about twice a month (refusing lots of offers) I didnn't get out of the house for 2 years. And have just started leaving the house since I came to this site. Spring was the one who got me up and going becasue she would call and I had to get up... to talk to her, because I wanted too... she was such a blessing to me for the short time she was actively in my life. I guess the bottom line is that I am soooo lucky and I thank my father in heaven daily for giving them to me and to Del. The day Chris (who has lots of friends all over the world) told that his dad was his best friend....I thought my life is good. Our families are the best.

I agree with all...it is good news since my son is in love and is now getting married to a nice girl. Her family was one of my dinner parties recently and they are great people. I know we will be close as time goes on. Thanks all...love you all Red

[red1030]

Still I forgot to mention, I am also very proud of your daughter. What a wonderful thing to say to her dad who has suffered so. She is going to do well in life in what ever role she chooses to do, from carreer, wife, mother and so many more...a person with this kind heart will find her way to have a life filled with contentment (my definition of contentment = satisfied with self and others around her... she will choose friends that compliment her morals, values, and belief's which will in turn strengthen hers again... thanks for sharing Still.... Red

[jayne]

What can I say Red we both raised awesome sons......

[red1030]

Yes we did..... thank you..love Red