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sparkey · 03-31-2008, 12:37 PM

I do not even know where the " invisible" button is, plus i never have to worry about anyone contacting me, as they never did..lol. I am here and have nothing to hide either. If anyone see's me on and needs a shoulder to cry on, i am available anytime i am on.

red1030 · 03-31-2008, 12:44 PM

Sparkey..if you want to be invisible ... which I am sure you don't...it is a check box in the edit options feature located in yoru private message side list...love Red

chrischris · (This post was last modified: 03-31-2008 03:10 PM by wontgiveup.)

Well Jayne, I will be very honest with you. I have some psychological problems along with my physical injuries. Many times my replies go against the grain even sometimes just a little from the "gang" and I get shunned to a point where my posts are ignored for a while. I'm not much of a pm'er so I don't really gossip about you all because I really don't fit in with too many of you. And I am excluded from most of the lists you guys posts of friends or people you want to be included in events.

I finally reached out to Spring and the very next day she disappeared off the forum. I get along well with Sithie, but for the most part I feel the rest of you just tolerate me. I've had this conversation with Pooh because we agree on a lot of things and both of us sometimes feel like the black sheep of the gang.

Sorry if you don't like the hiding but it's an option available to the forum users if they prefer to not be seen on line at all hours of the day and night. Sometimes I just want to be alone. Like the black sheep.

Hope you have a good day.

P.S. I don't mean any disrespect to anyone by what I am saying. It's all me. I'm trying to reach out but usually with every step forward I get pushed two steps backwards.

red1030 · 03-31-2008, 03:45 PM

Hi Chris...I am sitting here attempting to understand what I have done wrong to allow you to think that you are not a part of the gang...I see you as a very important part of this gang. I never realized that you have these feelings... I know you are out of surgery and sometimes that may allow you to see things differently etc...however, I think by how you wrote this, you do really think that you are not a part of this gang .... did you see my thread on front rows... I would be proud to have you at my front row as close to me as you can get... you are a super person who is full of integrity and always there with lots of information...there was a time, but just a short time when I didn't really undersand some of the things that you said, but that never meant you can't be a part of this gang..per sey...I see us as an online family who is sharing experiencing and support...which even reaches out to love. I believe it is hard to say that a person can really love a person that they have never met face to face and spent some time with , but I do know that it happens...my daughter married a man from Sweden and they met while she was attending college in Southern California and they played spades together...they have now been married and living in the states for almost 7 years this May. So it is easy to truly care about someone.. I have to though in that they did spend a month together in the states before they went to Las Vegas to marry. This online family is very different... we all care deeply about each other and then when you consider that some of us have met face to face etc..then we are most likely a little more close in that we truly have got to know each other in ways that we could never know each other on this line.

Please know Chris..I mean this from my heart... you are a part of our gang... everyone who wants to be is very welcome...and if you prefer to be invisible then you should be invisible..I changed mine because the issues that were there in my life back in Sept-December...are no longer there..so it didn't matter if I changed it or not to me, but it did matter to others who I care for deeply...therefore why not change it.. Chris pm me anytime ok...love Red

Bummer Knees · 03-31-2008, 04:53 PM

chrischris

When I first came to this forum I often felt I was being ignored by others on the forum and I tended to stay on the Injured Workers Forum. It took me some time before I responded to a post; for the most part I just read the threads.

On one of the threads someone said something that opened my eyes and I came to realize it wasn't others that were ignoring me. The problem was me and how I was communicating to others on the forum.

I realized I needed to give some of myself. I had been so use to receiving a negative response from individuals "In person" that I had built a wall around my feelings.

Chrischris, I see you as a valuable member of this forum and I enjoy reading your post.

Bummer Knees

monster · 03-31-2008, 05:54 PM

Jayne - I have been seeing lots of invisible people lately, LOL...well they're visible to me anyway. Glad you are just wet and not blown away all to hell!!! Smile

Red - Glad we can see you again sweetie, was starting to worry you were a figment of my imagination.

Robbie - welcome to the forum sweetie! Sorry you had to find us in this manner but you couldn't have found a better bunch of people. Please hang out with us, try to have some fun with us and if you need support just give a yell, we will come runnin'! Smile

red1030 · 03-31-2008, 05:54 PM

Bummer... you are a lovely and caring lady...thank you for that note...I am hoping that ChrisChris reads it and knows that we care for her as well...as for you...bummer..I use to wonder why you rarely came to this side of life...now I know...I think we all need to be very careful to open our arms up and include anyone who wants to be included.... thanks for you note...love you and miss you............ Red

red1030 · 03-31-2008, 05:56 PM

monster as always you are a true gem...I love your humor...love Red

jayne · 03-31-2008, 06:42 PM

well Chris other than you insane love of cats I dont see a problem with ya.......and since Sam and Leo I have gotton bit by the feline bug but mine are really dogs in rabbit fur they just happen to purr

sweet tooth · 03-31-2008, 06:45 PM

i am sorry didnt think me being invisible would hurt anything ,hubbie has got so he gets on here and reads so i didnt want anyone thinking i was not talking sorry didnt mean to hurt anyone AND i fall asleep with it in my lap so if i dont answer either its hubbie on or im asleep LOLLOOL