I Agree With Stiffnecked!

[jayne]

it would be best if we treated all the way we would want to be treated....with respect.... even if we disagree it can be done respectfully...or we can say nothing

[red1030]

ChrisChris...I think we can do this. To agree to disagree is a very important concept in this kind of situation. But I want you to understand something...I agree to disagree with you...but what if he is cruel to you? It could happen one day. Should we all ignore it or should he be told that it is inapproprate? 1171 has never been cruel to me, but it will come someday and then what? Do I just say that is him. I have enough trouble with feeling bad about myself as it is, I don't need for someone on this board to treat me as if I am nothing. We all suffer with differnt forms of depression from time to time. Do we really need to worry about if we post something and maybe we didn't even think it all the way through because of having a bad day, that we should fear that 1171 will be harsh with us. If this group of people want to do what you are suggesting, that is ok, we can agree to disagree, and I will cope with hearing it directed to the people I care about and to myself. I would still stand by whatever this family wants and believes. I just want to enhance this group, not take away from it. Thanks Chris..you are an amazing person with a great big heart, and I love you too...

[Still in Limbo]

Thanks everyone for giving your opinions, it's good that we are able to speak what we feel, and handle it the way each feels fit to do so, but I personally think it's time to put this to bed for me, I started this thread to see how others feel, and it was great to see such response, and diversity is good, I think it helps to keep this board well rounded. But for me to put this to bed and move on, I am going to handle this the way I see fit, and then put it behind me and move on. Thanks again for the great conversation!


1171: I am going to ask you that if you see a thread that I have started, and I need opinions and advice, I am asking you to Please Not Answer. I have a lot of problems and pain in my life, and I only post with a problem when I really need help. For me, personally, the sarcasm and attitude you usually post with your answers are not worth the knowledge I can receive from you. Thank You in advance for not posting, there are many on here that feel you are a great asset to this board, and in some ways so do I, but I don't need the aggravation that comes with your knowledge.

[red1030]

Again...thank you Limbo for standing by your convictions. Thank you for standing up for not only self, but this family.

[Guest]

Good-night thread!

[capricorn]

Sorry prncess but I have to say good morning to this thread once more.

I do agree that 1171 has been of great assistance here at times BUT so have many others without the attitude. though I have never been on his bad side I feel for those who have had their feeling shurt for no reason.
As far as asking what an injury is worth, I agree with Wink totally. All of us have had this enter our minds at some point in time. Maybe we haven't asked but all the same have thought of it. Maybe it's the ones with the worst injuries, the ones close to retirement, the ones who have horrible bosses that maybe want to go on and don't kno wif they can afford to. I say this because I have returned to my job after a back injury and a back and knee injury because it just wasn't feasable not to. I worked in pain for years. Dr. said it was Ok so I did it. Could not afford to lse my paycheck and benefits so I did what I felt I had to do. At this point I cannot return. 5 permanently injured body parts. Will I have some good quality of life some day? Absolutely from what my spine specialist tells me BUT it will take years to calm everything down in my body and God forbid I should ever hurt anything again. OK so now I am in a different position that with past claims. I've never asked what this is worth in $$$ amounts because no one knows BUT have been curious. All claims and states are different. all IW are different.I'm curious because I need to know IF I can afford to retire or do I need to start all over again at 53. My biggest concern as with everyone else's is their health. Do we not worry about finances because we're hurt? NO WAY!!! the bills still come in don't they? I think agreeing to disagree is the way to go BUT we all have to stick by it. No need for nastiness in any way here. I rec'd all the comfort and support I needed yesterday on the issue of the rude co-worker. Some may have thought it was dumb, and I shouldn't give it a thought. I agree BUT after 20 years to be slapped in the face like that caught me off guard. It's really toolate for any of my co-workers to get in touch with me BUT what would I have felt like if I was slammed? If I was told there are so many othe much more important problem shere than being hurt by a co-worker. I would have been more hurt. That was my issue yesterday. Today is different. As has been said in the past no one knows where the other is at that point. This surgery is knocking me for a loop, vertigo on top of it, can't take anything for pain. VULNERABLE! yes , and it would not have helped me at all to be slapped again. Thank you all who have stuck together in this. I hope the boards because less accusatory in the future.

Best to all,
CAP

[Still in Limbo]

Thanks for you views Cap., and your issue yesterday was just as important as any other. We all need to stick together regardless of what the persons problem is, that's why this board is so great! And you are right hurtfulness and sarcasm are not needed here! Tanks again Cap.!!

[capricorn]

You got it limbo. Just had to vice my opinion after the support I got yesterday and always get. What might be important to one is not to another for various different reasons. In the end we are all IW and have basically the same story maybe just at different times. I love all of you and have felt welcome since day one. At times I would not have anywhere to trun if I hadn't found this forum so It does upset me when the bickering goes on. I'm not saying everyone has to agree but there is a way to help with a stern hand if it's needed. Sometimes we all need a kick in the butt to pull us back into reality and out of the depression of the WC world. BUT there is a way to do it without hurting someone.

God bless,
CAP

[Bad Boy Bad Boy]

It is my opinion, that you all shown something here, and I was surprised not a one pointed it out. But still that is ok, for you all done well.

In almost every post or reply, you people used words;
Agree
Agree to DisAgree

In your post, wow that is great. Starting out a Post that way, only leave no grief. No complaints. Isn't that great.

Agree
Disagree
Agree to disagree
Objective
Opinion
I'm sorry to say

All words that mean alot to a person when reading, and when posting. And look how simple you all done it.

[Still in Limbo]

You're right Bad Boy, if you look back at the post "I feel old", I was surprised to see that the majority of the people on here are middle-aged or older. Being the ages we are, we were raised in the atmosphere of what I call "Old School" were manners and respect have been taught. Our Grand Parents were from the turn of the century, and lived the hard life through Wars, Depression, and so forth, and our Parents were taught the wisdom of respect and manners, and have passed them on to us. I think that's why I get so upset when I see people post nasty and negative remarks to an injured person, I was raised to be respectful, and you can use tact instead of being nasty anytime. I still get hollered at by people younger than me for calling them Sir Or Ma'am, they say "I'm not that old", and I tell them if they work for a living they deserve the respect of the title. But to get back to what you've said, I agree, it's very easy to be nice!!