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[monster]

Cap - do as Jayne said...let her smack 'em for you and since I am the forum worry wart I'll do the worrying for you so you can just concentrate on hubby right now. Sounds like you have your hands full with the family alone! Please know my prayers are still with you and hubby, I will turn the worry knob up full throttle so you don't have to.

Hugs,
monster

[Still in Limbo]

Cap., My Opinion Only, but when they want to Call or get Involved, I would just Tell them that when You have Info. You will Call. And be straight with them and Tell them the least Number of Calls or Visits at this Point would be Best for Your Husband, so He can Concentrate on His Care! And then the He** with them, Call when YOU Feel they need to know Something!! With My Disability, I have had soo many Arm Chair Dr.'s it Un-Believable, so I know where You're coming From! Be Strong, and My Prayers are with You, Your Husband, and Your Family!!

[red1030]

Cap, I am at a lost for words except to say take Still's advice, becasue as he said he has been there. Recently when Del and i went through this scare because the doctor said they thought he may have cancer...my life was rolling and I just could not stop long enough in my thoughts to truly care what anyone else thought or what they would say for that matter. For me and Del, we didn't say anything to anyone until I said it on this forum. His mother or my parents or children never knew anything about it and still don't for that matter... I guess we are very private most of the time... I am really sorry that you are going through this as well as the fear of what is happening with your husband. People truly do mean well adn most people have this overwhelming need to just step right in and give advice. It just happens, and usually these people have well intentions, but advice is where it will stop. I agree, bring a dish or flowers or something to brighten your lives or just a card to say we are here is you need us would be very nice. I guess that is one of the things I love about the people here... they are always here for all of us... they have never failed me, and I know none of us will fail you. Cap we are here for you and when you need a ear or anything else...we will be here....love Red

[capricorn]

I have made a decision. Jayne>>>you can slap anyone you want. Monster you can worry to your heart's content as long as it doesn't make you sick.


Limbo>>>> I wouldn't have told his brothers, as I know how they are, until afte r the biopsy. Hubby asked me to call. The one was great, offered his love and support and that was it. The youngest who is a bit of a problem to begin with, has hurt my husband and lefy him out of things so many times I have lost count. He is the one who told hubby that his girlfriend could take care of things. It pissed me of so bad I yelled at hubby. We've straightened us out BUT I just don't want this brother or his girl around. She knows so much with her great uncle that she didn't even know one of they largest cancer centers in the world is walking distance from us. It was idle BS talk, phony crap and maybe even over a couple of bottles of wine. I WILL take your advise and stay clear of them. Once hubby's treatment starts I have no problem reminding Dr.s that I am his wife. What got me was that the biopsy hasn't even been scheduled yet and they were acting like our Dr.s aren't good enough and she would have to step in at some point. I'm wondering why she didn't call her uncle when my husband's father was dying from cancer. I feel so hateful towards these two people and know that I have to get through this for my own sake. I don't like feeling like this. Need to become indifferent towards them,

Red>>>if it were up to me nothing would be said to anyone in my husband's family. They still resent me because out of 6 sons their parents chose me as their POA and their executrix. They passed a week apart from each other. I was main caretaker, interviewed all of the aids. I had two funerals to help plan a week apart from each other and lots of brothers crying poor that they needed $$$$$. All of this while working FT and taking care of hubby after his injury and back surgery. So I spent a year of my life taking care of these little boys and their hardships to be called every name in the book 6 months after they had thier money and all was said and done. Hubby has always put me first BUT I believe especially with the youngest brother he is still trying to win his love. This guy thinks he is the Lord himself and most in the family treat him as such. It makes me feel so much better to be able to vent all of this, to know that you all care and most have been in my shoes and understand. I would be so alone without all of you. God keep you all safe.

CAP

[jayne]

you are never alone we are always a click,prayer or phone call away

[capricorn]

Thanks my friend. xo

[Still in Limbo]

You hang in there Girl!! I know at a Point in Time like this, Faith is Stretched to the Limit, but Believe Me, the Prayers are going up and out, and when I was really down a Couple of Weeks ago, and I asked You all for Prayers, within 2 Days things Started to Turn Around for Me. There was no Magic, like I awoke and All was Well, but I felt a Calm, and somehow found a New found Strength to Carry on! Now Trust Me, My Problems were Great, but no where near as Bad as what You and Hubby Face! I was Never a Great Believer of Prayer, before I was Injured, but I am Now. It Will Come, and You Will Both Work through this, one way or another! I have the Faith in Both of You that You are Fighters, and You Will Prevail!!!

[Tuffy]

Cap, I agree with Still, There is not much a person can say at a time like this except to offer our love, support and prayers and to let you and hubby know we are behind you 200 %. I CARE and want you both to know that my thoughts are with you in your time of need.

[red1030]

Cap... I am close...I am going to pm you with my numbers, I should have done that along time ago, and didn't think of it. Please just know if you need me or if you need to just call and vent..I am here. I won't offer advice, because how could anyone know more about you and your husbands needs than both of you, but I will have an ear, and time to give to you. I know that this is moving so fast and that you are both just spinning with all the information from doctors etc so just know that when you need us, we are here. My prayers are with you both ... love Red