In the beginning

[Still in Limbo]

I agree with what 1171 has said, if Your not Visibly Bleeding, or have the Loss of a Limb, People don't want to Believe your Pain! And it's also True that Stress can add to a Person's Conception of Pain. Good Times bring Good feelings, and sometimes Helps with the Pain in the Mind. Proven Chronic Pain is something I wouldn't want My Worst Enemy to Have, I deal with it Every Day! But I do have some Good Days, but the Constant numbing or High Pain is always there! The Meds. Help to a Point, but as We all Know as Our Bodies become immune to the Meds. they need to be adjusted, for the maximum efficiency. I've been dealing with this Pain for 3 Years, and it has changed My Entire Life, both Socially and Emotionally! And Tim and 1171 are Correct, the More the i/c can get to Quit, or take smaller Settlements, the Higher their Bottom Line at th End of their Fiscal Year! That's Why We have to Battle on, to get what is Rightfully Ours, I don't want One Penny More than I am due, but I won't Take a Dime Less Either!! Just keep up the Fight, try and Minimize the Pain, and sooner or Later We All can Win!!! (By Winning, I don't Mean a Major Victory, there is not enough Money or Earthly Possessions that will give Me back what I've Lost, but I want for My Family All I can Get!!)

[rholmes]

This is one of those threads that hits very close to home. People in general have a tendacy to not want to be around you after you have been injuired for a long time. At first everyone is so concerned and then they slowly dissappear, because they feel you are either being a baby or just faking altogether. What I wouldn't give to be able to put on my high heels and strut my stuff or go dancing or even go into a dept. store and be able to walk around ( i do use their elec. carts most times).I have to plan everything I do around my pain level for that day. On good days I can do some housework and even work in my yard, but those days are getting further and further apart.

What gets me most times is i see people in my age group or older getting around moving with ease and then I sink into that depression hole that we all seem to visit at one time or another. And what makes it even worst is knowing that at my age (51) I most likely will never get any better then I am now only getting worst. I had so many plans with my life after I left my job and retired but now those dreams are all but gone my mind tells me you can do it, you can do it but my body tells me you are only fooling yourself. I feel like I am about 70 most times. I should be happy enjoying life and working like I was taught to do instead of feeling angry because I came downstairs and forgot to take my pain meds or bp med and I am just hurting to bad to make it back up those 17 steps to get them. I have gotten to the point that I am no longer living just exsiting, then I cry.

RH

[jayne]

I know how you feel,I was feeling really sorry for myself the other day and my Daddy said to me...Deb (he is the only one allowed to call me that)remember when you were 11 and I had my stomach surgery? I said yes Daddy (I was scared spitless) they removed 80% of my stomach told me I had a year to live and to go home and get things taken care off...thats been 43 years ago...Remember just after you and Bill got married and they medically retired me because of my black lung?Yes Daddy (I said) they gave me 6 months that time little girl......and thats been 37 years ago......Then this 95 year old man told me....only the good lord knows how much pain you can take and when you are gonna die...so live every day he gives you like it was your last but prepare to live to 100...live for him first(GOD) your family second..
I love my Daddy he is strong and faithful and I know he is living only because he knows if something happens to him we will put our momma in a nursing home(shes a mean one)And he is so wise..(.except for that democrat gene he carries) so live like my Daddy knowing the Good Lord knows just how much we can carry.

[Still in Limbo]

Jayne, Your Father is a Very Wise and Intelligent Man!! You should be Very Proud of Him, and from getting to know You, He did a Great Job Raising His Children!!

[jayne]

yes Limbo I am in awe of him and his wisdom

[backache]

I got so jealous of this nurse the other day in the DR's office that it brought tears to my eyes. I am usually not a jealous type of person. It wasn't because this woman was better looking or anything, the reason was her grandaughter came running up to her at the office and she swooped down and picked the little girl up and spun her in the air. I have 8 grandchildren and I can't even bend down into the crib of my newest grandson to pick him up. I have to sit in a chair and have someone hand him to me. I was always so strong and I always took my strength for granted. I keep promising God if he gives me back my strength in my back, I will never take it for granted again.

[katicabogar]

I think no matter what we still have something left to thank God for it. I can't hold my grand children too long neither and can't cook or bake for them as I used to, but when I see these really young people in wheelchairs, I am reminded those poor souls are worse off than I am.
Enjoy your grandkids..even just watching them is a joy.
Have the best of Holidays.

[backache]

That is very true and I do thank God that my kids , husband and grandkids are healthy every day and I am alive to watch them grow. As they say if everyone would put all of their problems into a huge pile, and we had to choose most of us would pick ours back out since there are so many people worse off than us. Thanks for reminding me of this.
Happy Holidays