I think I just got kicked in the face

[bethsha211]

I just received an email from a friend.It pretty much stated that I was so negative when he spoke to me the other day and that I should get out of the WC system,declare myself healed and get on with it.I had called for emotional support because I am scared about the lack of money for bills,food,etc right now.And I always call him to see how he is doing.One time I needed help and boom,felt like I had been kicked while I was down.I think I can safely say that there is another feather in the cap of the WC-IC. I am most of the time upbeat,but not very happy right now.I have read some of you say how yo have lost friends,but I have never experienced this before.
Thanks for listening.
Bethsha211

[monster]

Beth I 'm sorry to hear this but please don't write him off immediately. Granted what he did was extremely crappy and uncaring but remember he may have been having a bad day himself. Please understand I'm not saying what he did is right, only that there seems to be a good friendship there and I would hate to see you both write it off over one crappy statement that he probably already regrets. I hope you don't think I'm saying it's your fault either, I'm just hoping you might both let a little time go by and then give him a call and see what happens.

As far as the bills and food goes please don't wait until you are completely without to apply for whatever aid might be available in your state. I am 44 and for the first time in my life I am now on food stamps as of last Friday. I am not proud of it but right now it's a necessity. Please seek whatever aid is available and don't be ashamed. It took me three years to finally walk through that door and I was actually treated like a person and not a scumbag or a number. Please do the same so that you can get some help and a little relief from the stress.

Hugs,
monster

[CRABBY]

I don't understand why everyone who has never experienced wc in the way we have, thinks it is just so easy to get back on your feet..and get on with life!!!!! Sorry your friend is shallow at this time, and yes maybe he was having a bad day, but it works both ways for anyone and I feel he could have been a little more compassionate towards how you were feeling...but that is just my opinion....and I'm beginning to second guess myself on that too....I've always been there for my friends and lately it seems that it ends up the same way, me comforting them and then they have to go when I try to tell them what is going on in my life....They must think that by letting me talk about it that it must be contagious....Oh well.... I hope you are able to continue your friendship with him..

[sparkey]

Like i said in a earlier post a few months ago. I lost a couple of good friends from work because of all this. They probably felt i was a " fake" and did not want anything to do with me anymore. I have not heard from them for awhile now. You will find that people frown on people that go for WC. They think we are out to get a free ride so to speak. Little do they know how much pain we suffer daily, and the depression that goes along with it because we cannot do what we use to do before. Not to mention the money we lose each week.

What i have always said is.....they cannot really be true friends if they can abandon you at this most depressing time of our lives. It is the true friends that stick besides you. So i say, let it be....and move on.

[vickinat]

Bethsha,
I'm sorry that this has happened to you. I would do as Monster suggest and wait for awhile and give him a call. If he was a good friend it is worth giving him one more chance. If he acts cold or uncaring during the call then just let him go his own way. I hope you can feel comfort in knowing that we are all here for you, we have been thru so much on the forum, that's why we are a family.

Take care
Vickie

[capricorn]

Beth...I'm so sorry this happened to you. I haven't heard from anyone for 18 months since the injuries so I do know what it feels like to loose so called "friends" of 20 years. Not a word. I'm with Monster. Apply for anything and everything that will help you. Remember the Secret Santa is here to help those in need.

MONSTER>>>>>>>STOP IT> YOU SHOULD FEEL PROUD FOR TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF> I DON"T WANT TO HERE YOU SAY THIS AGAIN> YOU"LL EAT NOW>>>> SURVIVAL!!!!!!


CAP

[bethsha211]

Good morning everyone,I did apply for food stamps a little over a week ago.Haven't heard back yet,but I know it takes a while.I am trying to take care of things.I am not too proud. I will ask for whatever I need.Just a lot of things happening at once.I know I will make it,just may not be easy.As far as my friend is concerned,the reason he hurt my feelings so much is that I never come to him for emotional support.This time I did and he couldn't handle it.He ended the email -"Ditch the WC or travel on". So, I came here knowing some of you have experienced this before and God bless you it's not easy.It is so good to be able to express myself here and not worry about being put down.
Thanks,Gloria

[jayne]

gloria,I have very few words of wisdom...I lost the one person in the world I thought I could trust to raise my children if something happened to me and Bill in fact they were in our will if for some reason Our Daughter Rebecca couldnt take them.....I trusted her with not only my life but my childrens....we worked together every day we called several times a day when we were not working...in fact my husband and becca called her my other half.....we worked and played together....to know she choose a part time job over me was more than my mind could take..it was more painful than the injury.....the lies she told to obtain my job and make it even harder for me to get WC to pay for things was devastaining...it was my undoing....thru this place and my new church I have found friends who not only believe in me but hold me up in prayer.....who think I am a worthwhile friend and who night or day has been here for me...I never thought a name on a screen could keep me from swallowing a handful of pills and letting my family be free of this mess.......I have found true friends and a church that is awesome that is worth the injury to me.let this place do it for you also......I really dont believe that Admin relizes the lives and families he has saved since this site began the support we recieve is awesome........Pooh met her husband here......So he has also made families.......on a lighter note Pooh did admin give you away?

[collateraldamage5591]

Sorry to hear that when you really needed some support from a friend that they let you down at the time friends are most important. Sometimes friends are emotionally unavailable because of thier own life problems. It looks like it didn't keep you down. Hang in there. It's just another test God has presented to you.

[capricorn]

Jayne...how sad when human beings treat each other like this.


Beth....Prayers for you to get the aid you need. I went back to work in '01 because I couldn't stand it anymore. WC destroyed my life. I went back with no restrictions against my attorney at the time's advise. I now am on my 5th and final injury. 3 body parts have been injured before and the other 2 have had so much wear and tear they are permanently injured. Try, please try to let the comment go in one ear and out the other. I did it and have lived to regret it and be injured worse.

God bless,
CAP