I need a good comeback

[bronco54501]

I dont feel you were chalenging me, no problems here... But to the fact of going higher up, we have and in court they sided with the school board.. Many issues were brought up in court, they named my son as a trouble maker.. threatened juvinile detention if we kept up.. Later one of the school superintendents appologized for the actions , but will never admit wrong doings.....

[LeglEgl]

Have you tried finding a non-profit agency focusing on these issues to hopefully advocate for you ?

[Bummer Knees]

LeglEgl I have non problem with you and do appreciate your post.

I do not supporting hitting of any kind, a hit is a hit.

I have no problem working with the school thru this, done this before with other students and their families as an educational advocate .

First I will start with the chain of commands, teacher, vice, principal & c.princial before going higher up. Cody is new to this school having started 7th grade in August of this year. Due to his Autism I may pull the school physchologist into a meeting with school staff.

Cody spends hours everyday in the same classroom with this other sudent, and his anxiety level is very high with the thought of returning to school tomorrow.

Cody needs to get along with others and I hope this turns into a learning experience for him.

[jayne]

I pulled my son from school 3 years ago and now homeschool him, if you think anyone at that school gives a rats ass about your kids your wrong.They are there to move em thru like cattle there are a few good teachers left but not many we get what we pay for. Until WE the parents give them the teacher back the authority to teach AND make em mind we ham string them....when we take the power from the teachers to keep the little darlins in line and the little darlins know it....what can the teachers do?When I went to school and did something wrong I was warned once second time up before the class and bend over and grab your ankles and 3 swats to that tender bottom......I got one set the embassament was enough to make sure I never got another one...it was in 6th grade and it was for mouthing off.....to this day I remember it...I deserved it....Kids now mouth off and teachers have to take it,parents have to take it we have a generation of kids that are pure spoiled and not worth the powder it would take to blow them to Hell...what would happen if computers went out they couldnt count their own money at the grocery store or local pool hall....we still have the majority of parents raising good kids but a whole lot of kids being jeks up half way its scary....Teachers are not being paid what they should be to deal with what they have to deal with....give me 30 kids in the normal Hi school now I am gonna go in with riot gear and a army tank..

[Bummer Knees]

On this thread we have been sharing about bullying in the schools.

I just read the following in the Wichita paper, so sad.......

http://www.kansas.com/2011/09/24/2030128...llied.html

[bronco54501]

That is sad, and sounds like our schools here.... My heart goes out to her family...

[jayne]

to tell the truth what can the schools do? we has parents have taken all the controls from them....we have told them dont you spank my child,dont you make my child stay after school,dont you embarrass my child,dont you,dont you ,dont you ect ect ect.....our teachers shouldnt have to teach our children how to act thats our job as parents and we thats right WE the parents are falling down on the job...we are sending our children to school hungry,in rags,cold and with attitudes that should have been never allowed to take root....we live in a world that believes the nanny goverment OWES them....and its more important to HAVE kids than to RAISE children....The Teachers job is to Teach school.Our job is to send them well mannered dressed and fed children.And if you come across a bully and he raises a fist to you..you stomp his ass in the ground he doesnt do it any more...but that only happens in a area where well mannered children are the norm and Teachers have rights....back in the 60s now its scary

[red1030]

Bummer... it seems that you have been given a lot of advice here... and for me I would take what I believe may work in my home. I truly agree with 1171 and LglEgl. I also believe that what you said about your husband is right on the mark. I met him in person and have had a great amount respect for his role in his family as husband and father. It was obvious in everything he did and every conversation he had. I do not believe that any "hit" is worth the long term affects of consequences that you and your child may suffer later. I do understand its roots in our country and it has had some value in our countries past history. However, I am not sure that the immediate value of spanking as an attention grabber can overide the many dollars spent for counseling in later years. This would definitely be a matter of great debate which should not occur here on this forum. I do believe however, that your son with his many special needs may be experiencing something else that is occurring and creating some confusion for him. He may be trying to figure out what his role is in the house and family as he grows in to a man. I guess here is where I would consider how your husband may create a learning opportunity for his son. For instance, maybe his current teaching may need to change to a teaching or opportunity where he sees his sone as a young man. And as I saw first hand, your husband has a great amount of respect for you which inturn he can assist your son to maintain through his learning opportunities also. There is no greater role in our lives than that of being a parent. It can't be solved with a simple phrase or simple words. Words and actions are truly a neccessity ... understand his major concern about his role as he grows older, then help him grow in to the man "he-Codey" himself will be proud of. I hope this helps a little. miss you all Red

[red1030]

Bummer... it seems that you have been given a lot of advice here... and for me I would take what I believe may work in my home. I truly agree with 1171 and LglEgl. I also believe that what you said about your husband is right on the mark. I met him in person and have had a great amount respect for his role in his family as husband and father. It was obvious in everything he did and every conversation he had. I do not believe that any "hit" is worth the long term affects of consequences that you and your child may suffer later. I do understand its roots in our country and it has had some value in our countries past history. However, I am not sure that the immediate value of spanking as an attention grabber can overide the many dollars spent for counseling in later years. This would definitely be a matter of great debate which should not occur here on this forum. I do believe however, that your son with his many special needs may be experiencing something else that is occurring and creating some confusion for him. He may be trying to figure out what his role is in the house and family as he grows in to a man. I guess here is where I would consider how your husband may create a learning opportunity for his son. For instance, maybe his current teaching may need to change to a teaching or opportunity where he sees his sone as a young man. And as I saw first hand, your husband has a great amount of respect for you which inturn he can assist your son to maintain through his learning opportunities also. There is no greater role in our lives than that of being a parent. It can't be solved with a simple phrase or simple words. Words and actions are truly a neccessity ... understand his major concern about his role as he grows older, then help him grow in to the man "he-Codey" himself will be proud of. I hope this helps a little. miss you all Red