Saddened for the loss of participation on the off topic areas

[UndercovrAngel]

Bronco,

I am sure that you are priceless to your family... not only your wife and sons... I'm sure Dom will realize how lucky he is/was as he grows that he has/had a daddy that took a hands on role in his upbringing.... but also your forum family as well. I would miss you not only here, but on FB as well.

I know how hard it is when you can't physically do the things you once did, and want to do with Dom. And the borrowing money is the hardest of all. I've taken out 2 title loans on my lincoln to keep my head above water since the beginning of the year, but I only seem to sink further and further into debt. I am now looking to find things that I can pawn and won't miss when I can't afford to get them back. At least for now I have a roof over my head and food on the table, but that may change by the end of the summer if things don't change in my relationship. I'm just trying to take one day at a time, especially now that I have had the surgery on my left arm that now looks like it is a failure because I was forced into having to use my arm/hand way to soon afterwards. But that's life. I will find a way to work around it as I have everything else that has caused me to be disabled.

Angel ^j^

[bodybuilder1958]

Bronco, you owe excuses to no one. Not with reading over the yrs what you have been thru. You are an active participant here, a wonderful husband and an even more wonderful father.

Sorry for the comment, the topic. I guess it's the lack of replies to some posts and it's not my posts. It's the lack of a kind word for those seeking comfort.

I know wer're all busy, for me juggling dad, job, family and other things is tough. It was tough before and now I throw a job into it.

[bronco54501]

Thanks BB, and UA, I know adventually thing will get better and my attorney always re ashures me the light is getting closer... I just dont see that light at all right now. I have put my faith in god as always, and maybe he has a reason for all of this...

BB, as far as the subject, I do understand what and why you posted it.. I dont know, it might be that everyone has new things to do this year.. I know I mis the good times we all have had here even if at times some get edgey including myself....


UA, I hope things look up for you as well, you also have a full plate.. Take care..........Bronco

[jayc123]

As far as the newbies like me its hard to start to open up to people you don't know, and to join in on topics that seem to be private. Plus you don't want to step on any toes. As for me, WC has been relatively good to me as far as payments, luckily the construction bubble burst and I got a mortgage refinance right before this happened. I have two kids,2yo boy jeremy(jem after my brother) and 6yo girl jadyn, and a wife that seems 11 months in WC is too much for. See how quickly the topic veers off and sounds like a sob story, but at least i found her true selfish, spoiled true colors. Its not WC fault, that's just the last straw. Don't feel bad its better off this way. First time posting private stuff sounds like a doozie, maybe went too far? I cant help but feel if the first weeks of injury i was able to rest like everyone else instead of changing diapers and playing mr mom since the first day, my injuries may have healed like the year before, or at least to the point i didn't need surgery. Can you believe my own wife said that for the first month she thought i was faking. That shows her character and what she thinks of me, I've never given any indication in the past decade i was like that. Since then she's tried to reconcile by being selfish, spoiled and immature. I can't believe i took care of her and the kids for 2 years while she went to school full time. The only contributions she's made is making dinner,cleaning, laundry, and her miserable attitude. Well i guess you now know why i don't post personal stuff. Everyone have a good day because mine is finally getting better.

[bronco54501]

(06-24-2012 08:44 AM)jayc123 Wrote:  As far as the newbies like me its hard to start to open up to people you don't know, and to join in on topics that seem to be private. Plus you don't want to step on any toes. As for me, WC has been relatively good to me as far as payments, luckily the construction bubble burst and I got a mortgage refinance right before this happened. I have two kids,2yo boy jeremy(jem after my brother) and 6yo girl jadyn, and a wife that seems 11 months in WC is too much for. See how quickly the topic veers off and sounds like a sob story, but at least i found her true selfish, spoiled true colors. Its not WC fault, that's just the last straw. Don't feel bad its better off this way. First time posting private stuff sounds like a doozie, maybe went too far? I cant help but feel if the first weeks of injury i was able to rest like everyone else instead of changing diapers and playing mr mom since the first day, my injuries may have healed like the year before, or at least to the point i didn't need surgery. Can you believe my own wife said that for the first month she thought i was faking. That shows her character and what she thinks of me, I've never given any indication in the past decade i was like that. Since then she's tried to reconcile by being selfish, spoiled and immature. I can't believe i took care of her and the kids for 2 years while she went to school full time. The only contributions she's made is making dinner,cleaning, laundry, and her miserable attitude. Well i guess you now know why i don't post personal stuff. Everyone have a good day because mine is finally getting better.

jayc123 ,

Sorry to hear of the situation you were put through...

When I was just about to be released from the hospital after my mva while working, they had trained my wife to care for my needs.. I was left to a wheel chair for a while so the nurses said before I left that either it will break yous apart or make it stronger.. I was the money maker 2 to 3 jobs since I was 16, my wife was manager at a local bp.. She adventually lost her job because of the stress and having to take care of me.. Our relationship is stronger than ever before and were dirt poor gone many of days without eating so the kids can eat...

When a person gets injured so does the family involved... There are some that can take it and there are some that run away... You are the stronger one, you did nothing wrong its just the cards that are delt..................take care

[Cervical_Fusion]

Hey guys I think it is time I post on this thread. My reason for not being on here much this summer. My wifes brother moved back home with her parents a couple yrs back now. He moved from Cal. back to OH. This Feb. he found out he has liver cancer. He has no wife or children. In addition to the cancer he is also HIV Positive. He does not get along well with my in-laws. One reason for that is he is gay. But since they found the cancer. has as being going aroud saying his good byes to everyone..they have given him what i was told 6 months or so to live. He is indegent has no job or moneys..so my father in law has been signing some form saying he would provide shelter and food for the son for like 90 days at a time and the county has been providing medical care for him. He wrecked and totaled his car since being back home. My fahter in law went out and bought and extra automobile so he would have one that lee can drive. My in -laws open a bank account for him and they put 235.00 in it each month so he has pocket money and would not be asking them for money everyday. He now gets 200.00 a month in food stamps. and my father in law has given him a credit card to pay for his gas and certain other little things he is allowed to charge on the credit card. (not sure what those other things that are allowed are). So I fill my farther in law has done everything and more that he can do for his 60 yr old son. My in laws are both 80yrs old. Father in law is in good health. my mother in law has some dementia and early stage of altzhimers, so she is batteling that and has some depression and things are all in a disaray in their house. Now Lee decides he can not live i that environment anymore. So he decides he wants to move in with me and my wife. WIfe asked if I mind him staying with us for awhile. I told her I would not throw her family out, as i understand it is her brother and they were close growing up. But for him to disappear for 40 yrs and have no contact with her during that time frame, guess he was not as close as she felt they were. He has been in our house for 2 months now. He has a full size standard poodle...so here is another dog in the house along with our animals. Lee stays in bed all day some days and is not motivaed to get up..he is sleeping in out family room (which is where our computer is located in the house). He takes all his meds at beed time and some in the morning to. But he is not being treated for the cancer too far into stage 4 i guess. So no meds or chemo or radiation treatment. He has like 12 kinds of meds he is taking..He is gone now back to in laws house as he had a dr appointment there... so when he has a dr appt. he returns to thier house and a few days after dr he will return to our house, before he left wife and him went to grocery store to spend his food stamp money.. he has been buying food to help us while he is here. Which is nice of him to do. While at the store I went throuhg his meds and wrote down all the names... went to the internet and searched them out to see what all he takes. Reason I did this as he and others said he has happy pills and he takes them at night..My wife works 3rs shift and is gone to work at 10pm at night. He takes his meds after she is gone to work and his so called happy pills...The man is staying in our family room and is blowed away at night which my wife does not see. He is down stairs hullicanating and who knows what is going through his head. I have found him crawling up the stairs...i have found him also in the kitchen floor looking in cabinets for ice cream.. now we all know ice cream is in the freezer. LOL. Find him out side at night running aound in his underwear..this is just a few of things that go on with him..LIke I said my wife does not see these things out of her brother. Anyway the drugs I found One HIV medication..A bacterial infection med. and Med for prostate and a whole slew of meds for Bi Polar...Schicophrenia...A med used for cocaine withdrawls. I will just say a lot of meds that are used for Mental conditions or problems..Told my wife about how he is after she is gone at night to work and what kinds of meds he is on or using...She asked him about some of the meds as to why he is on them and he replied because the dr prescribed them..my wifes knows about the hullicinations becasue he talks to her when she comes in the mornings from work and tells about the he call dreams he had..they are not dreams...so I guess I has said enough.. here....But this is what i am dealing with. this summer.. I hope one day he goes to the dr they will not let him return to our house. I understand he is her brother and all and I understand her wanting to help him.. but well you all probably know how I fill ...I guess we will know when he returns if the tumor has grown any more and what is happeing with him....But our house if different this summer....that is for sure...
Also I will start a new post as I am in the setteling stage with my WC claims... Hope everyone has had a nice and painless week end.

[Bummer Knees]

Wow CF you do have your hands full!

Bronco you are a valued member of this forum and I especialy enjoy reading your post.

Jaycc sometime the stress of work comp brings our the worst in people, for others Our inner strength and faith gets us thru the daily struggles. I believe you are one of inner strength which will get you thru the daily struggles.

My life has been busy lately. June is always a busy month as I run a summer program for children with disabilities. This summer the program is located in three different towns with three speech pathologist, and four teacher working with a total of 100 children with disabilities. I would not be able to do what I do as a admin/volunteer if not for the stong board of directors, and volunteers who hepl with this program. This is the last week of the program.

In July undercoverangel and randy will be here to visit, and a friend of mine and her son whild be spending a week in our home, my friend is the injured RN I have written about on this forum.

Later in July my family will be taking a vacation with Lori & Todd. We plan to visit a couple of different transplant units in Kansas and Nebraska. The transplant unit in Wichita where Todd was going to have his transplant has closed their doors. We will also be visiting family in Nebraska and Kansas City.

I am scheduled to start the hand surgerys in July but will be delaying surgey until September so my family can take a vacation.

[admin]

There has always been an "ebb and flow" to this forum, but this summer does appear to be a pretty significant drop off. Not sure why, but sometimes no news here might mean good news elsewhere.

Of course, Jayne hasn't posted in 9 days or so, and that may account for a significant drop in traffic

We've been lurking in the background but busy with many projects. Hope everyone has a decent summer!

[chrischris]

Hi all. I've been lurking in the background too. LOL!!! Was doing so well and then boom! Another ruptured tendon in the same arm I have RSD. So I've been healing slowly without surgery or medications. Sorry I just disappeared after game. Hope everyone is okay.

[Bummer Knees]

You have been missed Chris, please do not stay away!