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Today is hard - jayne - 12-21-2009 01:34 PM
Today I have been calling all Daddys creditors and ICs I am so tired of hearing "We are sorry for your loss"the last one got a dose of the Red head in me and I had to apoligze....I told her "I didnt lose my Daddy he died I know where hes at...he is in a UPS truck coming from Van buren to Poteau after his creamation...I took good care of him and didnt misplace him anywhere......" she was very quiet and I felt about 1 inch tall.... I did apoligze.......I miss him so much today and am tired of calling all these people to let them know he is dead...I hate that word
RE: Today is hard - Bad Boy Bad Boy - 12-21-2009 01:52 PM
Jayne, I know what your doing, and know how this is, as I had helped do this for my wife's mother. To only find out, after all the calls, they still need and want a copy of the Death Certificate. So, what I said to do, was lets call the Credit Card companies, to shut the cards down. All the others got a short letter I typed up, with a copy of her Death Certificate. That had seemed to work best. And thank God we are done with that part.
RE: Today is hard - Still in Limbo - 12-21-2009 02:40 PM
Jayne, I know it's Hard, but a Necessary Evil. I Used the Word Passed, and told Them what I needed from Them. If it's getting to You, Maybe Only do a Couple a Day, I Personally did Them all at Once so I wouldn't have to Deal with it Later. And as BX4 said, They will Probably want a Death Certificate. My Heart Aches for You My Friend, but You're Strong, and You'll get Through!!
RE: Today is hard - capricorn - 12-21-2009 02:47 PM
I also don't like died/dead. I use passed as Limbo does. They pass into a better life in my eyes. Jayne...I had to do all this for my mother when my sister died. It's very hard. You're exhausted to begin with and then have to talk to people you don't want to talk to. I did alot as Badboy suggested. Short note and Death certificate.
RE: Today is hard - backache - 12-21-2009 02:50 PM
Keep your chin up girl. You have been through a great deal and if you lose your temper now and then that is OK. I remember a story my Mom use to tell after my Dad passed away. He was a welder so there were many companies who tried to contact him after he died to sell him welding equipment. She said that one co. who sold gas for the tanks was very persistant and even years after Dad died they would still write and try to get him to buy their products. Mom wrote back time after time, but they kept writing to Dad. Finally Mom wrote them this letter.
The person to whom this letter was sent,
four years ago his life was spent,
but just for the giggles,
and just for the laughs,
what the he// would he do with your gas?
Needless to say they finally quit writing.
RE: Today is hard - jayne - 12-21-2009 03:13 PM
I like your Momma....
RE: Today is hard - backache - 12-21-2009 04:08 PM
She was a peach. Just like you are Hun.......
RE: Today is hard - RNvic - 12-21-2009 05:25 PM
Jayne- take a couple days to rest and recollect brfore taking on the cerdit companies, then make sure you check the bills for any that have insurance on them, the companies will not tell you that there is insurance that will pay off the bill so look at the bills. Also chcek with your fathers bank as there could be policy on he bank accounts.
RE: Today is hard - jayne - 12-21-2009 07:49 PM
Daddy had insurance on everything The cabin he built for Him to live in till he died is now paid in full....He left Becca his house....I am just falling apart today...tomorrow I will pull my big girl panties up and get done what has to be done
RE: Today is hard - capricorn - 12-21-2009 08:11 PM
Jayne everyday will be different for awhile. Some Ok and some bad. Give yourself a break and relax. There will be more times that you'll fall apart and you'll need to be ready. God bless. Prayers are still with you.