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big ugly elephant - jayne - 08-17-2009 01:30 PM
OK Family we have a huge ugly elephant in our little forum here and I for one am not going to ignore it any longer.
For a long time Red has been the center pole in our teepee when she fell we all were slapped in the face by smelly tent canvas.
She has been our main benfactor for our bingo games and our secret Santa and the workhorse behind them and let me tell you she has been in agony this last week to 10 days....To tell the truth to all I dont know or understand how it was able to get this far without her family or medical treatment team knowing and it breaks my heart I didnt catch it......I do not know everything that she has went thru and there has been alot that she doesnt remember either...some mistruths have been spoken and she admits she has been spoonfeeding them to us for awhile...she was splintering and didnt know how to put herself back together.....I dont know how to put her back together.....I know my memory sucks and I know I have crashed with my meds and she and you all have picked me up,dusted me off and we have been all the stronger for it....
We need to as a family pick her up kiss her boo boos and help her get back on her feet........alot of hurts have happened alot of lies told to cover her drug abuse ...but we can get past it...I know we can......I for one love this lady with all my heart and soul and was devestated by all that has happened but I still love her and I want and need her in my life.....trust is an issue and it will be awhile for that......but I am gonna mother her,love her and bust her arse if I think she needs it.....When she became my friend it was for life....And I encourage each of you to search your heart and do what you feel is right for you...but brothers and sisters she needs us now she has been there for us and I am gonna be there for her.....
RE: big ugly elephant - Bummer Knees - 08-17-2009 01:56 PM
Jayne I also love Red dearly.
Jayne I am sending you a e-mail.
Red you are a brave strong soul and I love you!
RE: big ugly elephant - Tuffy - 08-17-2009 03:53 PM
Red should know, that as a fellow nurse I for one will be behind her 100%, Yes she has trouble but not something that can't be fixed . She also knows that she needs professional help, We and others as laymen can't help. We can stand by and offer our love and support. God Bless You Red.
RE: big ugly elephant - RNvic - 08-17-2009 07:00 PM
I agree with Tuffy, we can be there for Red and love and care about her but professional help is needed to deal with all this . I spent over a year and half as Director of a mental health 135 bed nursing home and I would not even think of trying to handle her rehab.
I will continue to pray for Red as well as Del that they can work this out, as well beat the adiction.
RE: big ugly elephant - jayne - 08-17-2009 07:24 PM
see I think you are wrong....help comes in many shapes and sizes.....I know when both Bill and Becca was so ill and in the hospital many of you were as close as my phone...not one of you could yeild a knife or inject a drug but the love and support was just as important and in some cases the only thing that kept me from totally loosing it...while surgery was going on Red ,Sweet and MJC was on the other end of the phone they kept me sane while I waited....when I had questions about Becca and Red was so ill RNVic was there to tell me what to ask and to just be.... again sweet and MJC right there along with my church kept me sane.....see I believe it takes it all to get it fixed...not just medical,not just drugs but love and caring to go along with the other all mix together to make a wonderful life...just as eggs flour,sugar and water alone are just what they are..... but you take care and a bit of love knowledge and you mix it all together and you got cake......
RE: big ugly elephant - sweet tooth - 08-17-2009 07:43 PM
prayer changes everything
RE: big ugly elephant - Bummer Knees - 08-17-2009 08:02 PM
Of course you are right and I am sorry I wasn't more supportive when Becca was in the hospital.
When my daughter was in the hospital just hearing from a friend gave me the strength to keep going.
And I believe Red needs to hear the kind words from members of the forum.
Red has been there in the past for US now it is time for members of the forum to be there for her!
RE: big ugly elephant - jayne - 08-17-2009 08:32 PM
Thank you Bummer
RE: big ugly elephant - buildergirl1973 - 08-17-2009 08:58 PM
i'm still praying for red and her family, i miss her here on the forum. everyone has their faults and makes mistakes. i think she needs to whats best for her, but hopefully she knows there are many on here that love her and respect her. love you red and miss you, hope you start feeling better soon!
RE: big ugly elephant - monster - 08-17-2009 09:13 PM
I love her to death and nothing could ever change that. I've been trying to let her rest and call me when she is up to it. I will call her tomorrow to say hi and tell her I love her. In all honesty the time just keeps getting away from me but I need to make a more concerted effort to keep in touch.
Thank you for starting this Jayne and thank you for keeping me sane for 2 days even though I know you already have so much on your plate.