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Red1030 update - red1030 - 03-02-2011 07:51 PM
Hey all...I am still trying to get back here. Even now, I have just a couple of minutes and I have to go to Glide which is 45 minutes away and then get back to church another 30 minutes away by 6 pm... and it is 3 now.
I was going to title this...Red is not very smart... here is the scoop.. my husband and I have finally separated. I left him due to continued volence that was increasing daily without cause (not that cause gives anyone an excuse to do what he was doing) but it added to my nervous behavior and so forth. Wow I have been gone for 60 days now, he is at his mom's and he will have to find his own way now. He still continues to deny it all..and as you all know I have a history of making excuses for his behavior. Well enough of that... it is what it is..should a, could a would a... is just that..and nothing more.
The best part is I am well...really well ... at peace with myself and with God. My life has turned back around very quickly. Our divorce is typed out and and we will be signing within a week and then it will take another week to 10 days for the judge to sign off. I am changing my last name to my maiden name.. and moving forward.
This has all been very hard on our children. Even grown children who have wanted me to leave for a long time is having some time adjusting to my change of roles and watching their father do what he is doing. My ex-husband has moved to a greater sense of trying to control us all..but that is expected. I really want him to have a good life but realize that I can't take responsibility for it any longer.
Anyway... sweet tooth..I lost your number again..I am between the country house, the apartment, and my dad's house and I am just really too organized right now. Most of the time do not have access to a computer which is a real bear for me...lol. I hope all is well with your knees...
I just wanted to check in and say hi and I hope to be back soon. Give me another month to close this all down and get my breath back. Red
RE: Red1030 update - sweet tooth - 03-02-2011 08:57 PM
good to hear from you dear
RE: Red1030 update - Bummer Knees - 03-02-2011 10:42 PM
Red good to hear from you.
Thanks for the update.
RE: Red1030 update - jayne - 03-02-2011 11:53 PM
welcome home Red welcome home
RE: Red1030 update - chrischris - 03-03-2011 02:58 AM
Hi Red, It's good to hear from you. I've been MIA a lot lately but not going thru near what you are. Bottom line is, if you are happy, then we are happy. Marriage is a commitment but it takes two people. God never meant for you to be a doormat or a punching bag.
I'm trying to get back here too. So darned distracted.
RE: Red1030 update - Cervical_Fusion - 03-03-2011 03:33 AM
Welcome back Red
RE: Red1030 update - halftrak - 03-03-2011 05:14 PM
red been there done that!I Am still going thru big time depression even though i have been divorced for over a year now,I was married 2 weeks shy of 28 years when i got divorced,as of right now My son and I have moved in with my mom for a while,hope all goes well for you.Wish I could say it gets better, maybe with time.I'm still waiting! take care, jenn
RE: Red1030 update - red1030 - 03-11-2011 01:39 AM
Hi all... thanks for your replies. I am finally living on my own. I now as of today have a computer with internet access again. I read a few posts before I starting typing and I see many new names that I do not know so this is a good time to get started again. I still have to close up the house out in the country ... we had two large garages and then a somewhat large home that will filled as always. I have sold almost everything and I have rebought completely all new furniture and new everything else.. except for my crafts, porcelain dishes, grandfather clock from Okinawa, and a few odds and ends, there is nothing left of my old life and I am anxiously awaiting what is waiting to happen in my new. I am just beginning a ministry in our church and am very excited about what can be accomplished for those around me and so forth. There is no doubt that I miss my old life to a point.. that point is mostly having another person with me from time to time. It does get very lonely and halftrak I can definitely relate to what you are saying. This is my first night in my new home and it is a little bit un nerving to say the least, but all and all..I am a survivor and I will survive this also. God is with me and therefore I know in my heart that I will never truly be a lone. halftrak if you ever want to talk... just send me your number through pm and soon I will be able to catch up with you, jayne, and sweets... sweet tooth..hoping and praying that you are doing well...ly all a lot. Red
RE: Red1030 update - Bummer Knees - 03-11-2011 09:23 AM
Red I have been thinking of you and wondering how you were doing.
Miss you.
Bummer Knees
RE: Red1030 update - admin - 03-11-2011 10:17 AM
Ditto!