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A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee....

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up; she was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'

'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft.
The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?'

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.


May we all be COFFEE!!!!!!
I loved it Jayne.......
That was nice and thanks for sharing it with us
Thanks Jayne, that was a Very Good Read!!Smile
Wonderful, Jayne...thank you for sharing it.Smile
Very nice
By the way I'm a coffee bean in most cases. I usually learn a lesson from what has happened to me and go on with my life. "If it doesn't kill you, it will make you stronger." I can be an egg at times if it is someone who I trusted that hurts me. That is when I become hard because I believe after someone who I trust, breaks that trust I never trust them again. Backache
I have at different times been all 3.....I would like to think most of the time I am the coffee bean.
I have been the egg and for the most part am the coffee bean BUT I find myself lately becoming the carrot. There is so much going on here right now that I am starting to become mush. I find I can't take too much anymore. My nerves are bad, the depression is setting in again..........I see the psychiatrist this afternoon for possibly a med change and have been in touch with my counselor. My God box has been pulled out sooooo many times lately........Was in a minor car accident the other day and totalled the back of my car........more $$$$. It's just one thing after another. I go in strong but things are beating me down now. I'm tired.
As Far as I'm Concerned, I Believe Every One of You that Posted can be What Ever You Want, and You ALL Have the Courage to Handle Anything!! Myself Personally, I Used to Look at the Good in People, and Since My Injury, and the Loss of a Few Friends Way too Early, I Believe at this Point in My Life I'm More an Egg, even though I Strive Daily to be a Coffee Bean!! Cap. You are Much Stronger than You Give Yourself Credit For, Backache, You have Made so Many Strides in the Right Directions in Your Life, after a Horrible Start, and Jayne, the Way You are Taking Care of Your Parents is above and Beyond the Call of Duty!! It's O.K. to be Humble, it's a Great Trait, but when Credit is Due, I Believe it should be Given, and All 3 Of You are going Through Rough Times, and will Come Out on the Other Side just Fine, and Stronger than Before!! That's My Story and I'm Stickin' To It!!!!!Smile
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