as most of you know our church built a small cabin in our back yard for my folks to live in......the last 2 weeks have been very hard...my Daddy doesnt know Momma much and he calls me Momma alot of the time...always seems to know Becca..he will only take meds from me or Becca and we have to give him his food as he wont eat from anyone else.......this weekend my good for nothing worthless waste of skin and breath brother was supposed to come relieve us for the weekend so we could go camping with our church we still would have had to come home morning and evening to give him meds and make his meals but would have got to spend the rest of the time away to relax....well he didnt come so Bill and the kids went....I hate being alone cant sleep when Bill is gone......I know I should be more forgiving of my siblings but why cant my brothers at least come see them.......I have told both if they cant make it while he is alive I wont call them when he dies....I know I am whineing.....its a really bitter sweet time for me I love my Daddy and will take care of him as long as he is alive but it is so hard to watch him die......I wish I had the power to send on his journey he hurts so bad.......but I dont and dont know if I could if it was possiable...every day is a gift.....he begs for death......pray for my Daddy...that his passing is soon and easy..........he is in so much pain......
I will Jayne. I wish you and he the best.
hold on dear and tight it will soon be over and you will have joy knowing you done all you could do
Jayne I do pray for your Daddy, you, and your family.
And I do pray that you do not reinjure yourself.
Im sorry to hear this and praying for you all.
jayne...I know this is tough on you and your entire family. Often there are times when one or more siblings will not do their part even to just give the one sibling who is caring for their parents 24/7 respite time. I sure wish I was there to give you a hand. I know that even your father would take pills from me and my food.... lots of practice in this department. Give him and your mom a hug and then just keep doing what you are doing... you will know when its time for you to get a break.... can you find someone from the church maybe to come in even once a day to give you a break? Love you Red
Ellen and I have been in the Exact Situation with Ellen's Mother, and the Day She Passed, I Prayed for the Angel of Mercy to Come and take Her Home! Bitter Sweet is a Pretty Good Way to Think of it, I Hope the Best for Your Daddy and Mom, I know This is Very Hard on You, and You will have My Prayers. We turned Our Master Bedroom into a Hospital Room for Ellen's Mom, and the Day She Passed, She took Me by the Side and told Me She was Tired, and Couldn't Fight anymore, and I Told Her to do what She had to, Ellen's Dad would be taken Care of, and I would Assemble the Family. I then had to go and Tell Ellen This was the Day, and My Heart Broke in Two to See the Look on Her Face. But She was a Trooper, and Administered the Hospice Care for Her Mom, via Phone from the Hospice Nurse. God what a Day, I Never knew a Truly Broken Heart until Then!
MY heart breaks every time I go out to see them....he begs for death he is in so much pain.....I wonder how much more he can take.....my saving grace is every once in awhile he will look at me and say"I dont know what I would do without you buddy"and it gives me strenth to keep going......when he goes I will thank God for taking him home I will get thru his funeral and then I will go to pieces but I will stay strong enough to give him the funeral he deserves.....My one wish is that my sis and her husband could be here...he would give my Daddy a good send off but I know money wise its impossiable........So I will do it.....Daddy expects it......My heart is breaking in so many pieces.....but I will do it...you all pray for my Daddy please
jayne...you know unless your father had a TIA or CVA..mini stroke or stroke..there should not be these changes this fast. Something is not quit right here. He went from driving to this in less than what 6 months.... does he have a disease process..or is he depressed or is it all his new medications. This doesn't sound right at all. Just my thoughts.. love Red
to much has been taken from him Red...his home ,his freedom,his Drivers licence,his will to go on....its all gone with the fist of my nephew.......he will pay dearly for his mistake