Okay sweetie I finally found your post that you were telling m,e about on the phone. Since I haven't been playing I missed it.
As others have said you have nothing to be embarassed about or ashamed of. You were the victim here and I can't believe you lived in that nightmare world for so long!!! I also have been there and done that and while you may think nothing will ever be okay again ... well that is far from the truth. It will take adjusting to but you no longer have to live with the fear of being hit for no reason or some dumb a$$ imagined reason. You are probably the strongest willed woman I have ever known and you WILL make it through this!!!
I am glad the VA stepped in and forced him to leave. I know you are on a roller coaster right now. I can't thank you enough for calling and talking to me as I have you in the past. Remember you made me a promise and I fully expect you to uphold that promise! You call me any time of the day or night girl...I don't care what time it is, I am sleeping very little again so you don't have to worry about the time, okay?
We love you and are very worried about you. Please stay strong and keep your friends and kids extra close right now.
Love,
monster
backache Wrote:Yippee..........count me in I have never won, but hopefully that will change this game. I'm sure whatever you paint will be beautiful . Love ya Backache
hello Backache,this is my first time on here ,I have no injuries thank the God for that but just wanted to say I have that reading about Dash,I thought it was beautiful.
Just want to say hello to everyone,and hope all things get better for everyone
Red,
You are amongst friends and family here Sis, you never have to feel embarrassed, ashamed, or sorry for anything. You are also among plenty of us that have been in your situation before and went thru abuse, some more than by one person. Feel free to vent, cry, yell or what ever you need to do. Remember the most important thing is that IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, too many victims feel that they are to blame, or that they did something or said something to become abused. That is not true, the abuser makes the victim feel this way alot of times after they hit or whatever they do, they will say things like "see what you made me do". Please know that we love and care about you. The Bingo game is'nt important but your health and safety is.
Love
Vickie
Red- know that I am thinking of you. Prayers going up for you. If you would like to talk pm me and I will call.
All I can say is take your time get your emotions together.. And like every one else have said It is not your fault in anyway....I too have seen this with a family member and god for years we watched it happen and tried to get her to leave him but they had kids and thought it was her fault.... But what happened was the jerk started to hit thier daughters and they only took so much before the girls and the mother pinned him down and gave him a beating to remeber. He was a alcoholic and I'm sure thats part of it. But it took awhile and he went and got help and now has been alcohol free for many years and has not laid a finger on her or kids since....
Red you seem like a fantastic person, and I'm sure many here would agree that you have a heart of gold...... And you are well needed here for we all need each other sometimes.. Just take care of yourself theres always time for a bingo game later..........Bronco
Red,
I am so sorry to hear about this. It comes as a shock to me cause I have never seen anything where you ever talked bad about Del etc. I guess you kept your private life quiet and kept this all inside for a very long time. You should have nothing to be ashamed of. You were the one that was the victom. Thank god Del is finally getting the help he needs because if he stuck around lord only knows what could have happened to you. You are a wonderful person from what I always read and so proud of you for taking that hard step in getting him the help he needs.
I want you to know I will be praying for you and HIM to make it through this. It will be tough for awhile, but hang in there as you have alot of support from your family I am sure ,and from us here on the forum. I am so proud of you for taking this step as I know it must be a very difficult one. Please take care of yourself and keep in touch with your family and friends through this tough time. It will help you to be with them.
Red in sharing that part of your live show the incredible strength that you have.
And in sharing this you are helping others that are abused face their situation.
When I lived in Washington State I was abused by my ex-husband, (it was only for a short time) I worked as a waitress at the time and one of my customers recognized what was going on in my life and helped me get a protection order and turn my life around.
Red and I Spoke Yesterday, and I feel She has Great Support around Her with the VA, and Her Son and Daughter. I shared a Good Bit with Her, and I have been with Ellen since I was 15, and She was with Del since 14 I Believe. Her Life is Inside Out, Upside Down, and Turned Side Ways Right Now, but by Spending not Only Time Here with Her, but also Time actually Visiting in Person, Red is ABSOLUTELY One of the Strongest People I EVER Met, Male or Female!! Her Soul Shines Bright and True, and there is no Embarrassment having to come to Realize She was Living with a COWARD. Love can Overshadow many Faults of the Ones We Love!! But Red, You know that Ellen and I Love You, and are Here for You!!! Need to get away a Few Days, just Call and I'll come Get You!! Need Us there, Say the Word!! Need Someone just to Scream at, Call Me!!! God Bless You, and as I Said Yesterday, You're Still an Officer and Always will be in My Book!!!
she is now and has always been my baby sister....I love her dearly....
tears are rolling down my face as I read all of my friends response. I have known Del since hs was 12 years old. He is not a bad guy just someone who especially when in pain does not know how to control his temper and finds it easy to prey on someone smaller. He would not have dared when I was an officer in the Navy..it doesn't work that way. The last time I was inthe hospital, his hand was involved. Not completdely but partely. I do believe that his time, he and I have said our last good byes...my heart is broken but my soul will survive .,..I yhave so mnay friends here. My parents are coming and will arraive any minute. They bought airplaine ticket. I love them so. /thy know I was in need and here they come. I am now down off of the ativan so...now I can start to plan..thanks so much all.... everytone get their BINGO game stuff in ok...love you all REd