I'm Writing this Tread for a Couple of Reasons, and I Hope I Explain it Correctly. My Brother had a Fall One Month Ago, (He's 51 I Believe) and Hurt His Knee. Before this Happened He had been Losing a lot of Weight, and would not go to See a Dr., or even let My Mom check His Blood Sugar. He was Rushed to the Hospital Last Night because His Skin Color had changed to Yellow, and He hadn't Eaten in Days. They Found Out Late Last Night after a Battery of Tests that He has Cancer, and He May Lose His Leg, My Father Informed Me that they will know More Today, they are not Sure how far this has Gone through His System. My Parents need Strength to get through this, and My Brother and His Family are going to need all the Help they can from the Good Lord in the Coming Days. Now to the Point, and I Hope You All on Here don't Judge Me too Harshly, or think Less of Me. This Brother of Mine is the Oldest, the One who Moved into Half of My Parents Home for 6mos. 18 Years ago and Never Left. We have not Spoken for Over 6 Years, He actually (and this is not anything but the Truth) Raised His Kids to not even think of Me as Family, and is without a Doubt and Proven to be the Black Sheep of the Family and has Cause My Parents Many Years of Heart-Ache and Pain. My Other Brother John is coming Home from Va., and taking My Parents to the Hospital Today,and My Mom's Staying Overnight. Dad Asked if John went Home Tomorrow if I would Take Him to See My Brother and Pickup My Mom, and I Told Him anything that Mom and Dad Need I will be there. My Brother Lives Less than 1/4 of a Mile from Me, and has Never Graced My Door through All of My Spinal and Ear Issues, and never even asked How I was doing to My Parents. I'm not going to See Him, I'm not a Hypocrite, I May have some Deep Primal Concern for Him as My Brother, but have Lost All Respect and Feelings for Him due to the Way He has Lived His Life, and what He has Done to Me. So they Need Prayers, and Please if You think I'm Wrong Tell Me, but Please keep in Mind that it Takes One He** of a Lot for Me to Write Someone Off, and He gave Me much More than One He**of a Lot! So Please Pray for Them, and I Hope He is able to Come Home Safe and Healthy for My Parents Sake! Sorry so Long, I just wanted to Explain Every Aspect of this, so You can See the Full View! Thanks!!
Still,
I would never judge you on your feelings. You know in your heart the pain you have endured from the situation with your brother and we are no one to judge you. I am so very sorry to hear of your brothers illness and I know your parents are worried and hurting at this time. Please know that I will keep your brother, your parents and most of all you in my prayers. If you need to talk I am here for you as you are always here for us in our time of need. May God Bless your family.
Loving Cajun Hugsssssssssssss,
MJC
Limbo, I am saying those prayers....
Just so you know, we all have a family something like you and yours, so your not at all alone...
Stilll ...I agree completely with MJC. I am no body to judge anyone when it comes to family matters that is for sure. Even so, putting all that aside, I trust your judgement completely when it comes to people and know that this brother has caused you and your family massive hurt for you to feel this way. I am sure that as your brother you do feel some concerns about him if not only due to the concerns your mother is feeling about all of this... and how it is affecting her and your father. My prayers are with your entire family. My immediate prayers are with you, that God give you the strength, understanding, and wisdom on how to help your parents through this awlful situation they are going to experience with their other son. God be with you all..love ..and give my love to your family Red
Limbo,
I think about you a lot, you have always been here for me. I would never judge you, I have a similar situation in my family with my brothers. I will add your parents and brother to my prayer list and hope that this is'nt too hard for them to deal with. You need to take care of yourself and be healthy enough to come to Florida in May. I miss speaking with you and Ellen.
I would also like to say that I feel that this was a very compassionate thing you did for your brother, no matter how badly you feel against him, you rose above those feelings and asked for prayers. With our forum family's track record of having prayers answered, I hope for the best for you and your family.
Love
Vickie
still you take care of your self dont go and over do your self we will be praying
My dear, dear friend Limbo. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this sad time. As Badboy and Vickie said most of us have family like this. In my case it's my mother. We haven't spoken in 3 years. For the very same reasons plus some that you mentioned. It took me 50 years to put an end to her hurt and I did. I pray for her daily, for her health and safety, BUT I suffer no guilty feelings and will not let her hurt me anymore. Please, please know that I along with everyone here will never judge you. You know what's in your heart. Let me know if you need to talk, I'm here for you.
God be with you.
Capricorn
Hey Bubba,I have walked in your shoes and still have them on I know why you feel the way you do.....I promised my parents I would take care of my sister altho I most likely will do it by phone.....as I have no desire to ever see her again....but and I tell you true you will have pain at his passing and all he goes thru because he is part of you....he is your parents son as are you and what hurts them hurts you....You and your Ellen are always in my prayers and I will add your parents and brother....but for me Bubba and for you especially for you go see him and give him a blanket of forgiveness....It will ease both of your minds and lift your parents hearts a great deal...love you dear man...
Still In Limbo
I am not one to judge others. I also think you are a very compassionate person asking for prayers for your brother and parents.
I will say prayers for them, and also for you and Ellen.
Bummer Knees
Still, You have to do what you feel, and what is right for you. I have a younger sister that I haven't spoken to in say 10 years and don't care if I ever do again. My family feels the same way about her. She is EVIL and gets her pleasure from hurting other people. She may be my sister but what she has done over the years, There is no forgivness for......
My thoughts and prayers are going out for you,your family and your parents. And remember God works in mysterious ways......