11-03-2008, 06:18 AM
First off I would like to say this is mostly my fault by the way my daughter was raised. 16 yrs. old and pregnant I forced her to finish school so that she would have a diploma. I worked hard at it as much as she did staying /keeping her in school. She got her diploma and the baby was born. Little Aaliyah. I was her coach as her bf was not in the picture at the time. She is now 6 yrs. old. 3-4 yrs. later my husband and I wanted to take my daughter and granddaughter to live with us in Ohio as he had to work there for 2 yrs.
2 1/2 yrs. later, she gets pregnant as we are on our way back home to NH. Pregnant by her married boss at work who had a family etc. She wanted to stay in ohio and got an apartment. My husband talked her out of it to come back home to us after she got the apartment and moved all in. It lasted all but 3 days in that apartment. She came home, worked , kids went to daycare etc. Little Isaac was born and I was her coach for him also as the daddy has not been in the picture since the day he was born till now.
My daughter has always had it rough with money by working at penneys and we decided to put her through the MA course. Which we spent close to 12,000.00. SHe just finished a few months ago and claims no matter how hard she looks, puts resumes, no one wants her. She is now doing nanny work for a woman and makes pretty good money but no benefits which her father and I stress very much.
Now she is quitting the nanny job, going to work for penneys again this week at night, move the kids out of the schools they have been going to for 6 yrs to be closer to an apartment she lives in now far away with a new bf. It takes about a hour to drive each morning to work/school.
Last night my husband got my two daughter, their partners and the grandkids to go take me to Olive Garden to celebrate my bday that just passed.My oldest brought a cake and my youngest said she had something in the car for me. Anyways, this is my point. At dinner we were all sitting there enjoying our dinner. Had almost finished our dinner and someone brought up the subject of the kids being pulled out of their school of 6 yrs. My daughter freeked out, stood up and told all of them "let's go". The two grandkids whom I pretty much raised since they were born and her new boyfriend. That left me with my tongue hanging out like " what the H just happened?". There plates were still full of food. Wasted good seafood pasta meals,and now my bday gathering was ruined. The cake was still in the middle of the table.
Now here the waitress comes asking me if we are having the cake when they come back. They were not coming back. They were gone. Left me with a look on my face like how could this daughter that I have done everything for humiliate me on my bday celebration? I could not continue to have the cake at that point. I got up and left crying of embarrassment and drove myself back home. Everyone looking as half the table left in a hurry and my oldest that brought the cake was embarrassed and upset at how my daughter has always treated me and now to do this.
Her father and I bought her a car years ago to bring these kids back n forth to school. Gave her a gas card just recently because she was using the excuse she could not bring the kids to school because she had no gas. I have bought clothes for these kids to keep them dressed as their fathers have nothing to do with them. The state pretty much said she made to much money when she got this nanny job that she gets no more pay for school so we now pay over 150.00 a week for daycare to make sure they are in school because we found she was not sending them due to oweing the school money.
I was so upset when I got home, I shut off her AOL account. I am now thinking of shutting off her phone also as I made sure she was on my plan so that if her car broke down that her and the kids could call for help. I have given to much to someone that dis-respects me. I have wrote all this to get it off my shoulders, but also wrote all this in hopes that if someone reads this. what they would do to a daughter that is so unappreciative. If anyone has any word of advice on what should be done I would love to hear it. I am right now going to just lay back, give no more money, shut off her phone and let her grow up and take responsibility on her own now. She claims her and her new BF know what they are doing even though she sleeps late every morning and the kids miss school due to her lazy A%%. I am very uspet right now as you can tell, but would like other suggestions of what to do. If there is anything ...... I am at a loss and very heartbroken that this happened to me, the one who has always been there for her. I am throwing in the towel and unfortunatly I will miss my two grandkids whom I love dearly and know will be affected by all this.
2 1/2 yrs. later, she gets pregnant as we are on our way back home to NH. Pregnant by her married boss at work who had a family etc. She wanted to stay in ohio and got an apartment. My husband talked her out of it to come back home to us after she got the apartment and moved all in. It lasted all but 3 days in that apartment. She came home, worked , kids went to daycare etc. Little Isaac was born and I was her coach for him also as the daddy has not been in the picture since the day he was born till now.
My daughter has always had it rough with money by working at penneys and we decided to put her through the MA course. Which we spent close to 12,000.00. SHe just finished a few months ago and claims no matter how hard she looks, puts resumes, no one wants her. She is now doing nanny work for a woman and makes pretty good money but no benefits which her father and I stress very much.
Now she is quitting the nanny job, going to work for penneys again this week at night, move the kids out of the schools they have been going to for 6 yrs to be closer to an apartment she lives in now far away with a new bf. It takes about a hour to drive each morning to work/school.
Last night my husband got my two daughter, their partners and the grandkids to go take me to Olive Garden to celebrate my bday that just passed.My oldest brought a cake and my youngest said she had something in the car for me. Anyways, this is my point. At dinner we were all sitting there enjoying our dinner. Had almost finished our dinner and someone brought up the subject of the kids being pulled out of their school of 6 yrs. My daughter freeked out, stood up and told all of them "let's go". The two grandkids whom I pretty much raised since they were born and her new boyfriend. That left me with my tongue hanging out like " what the H just happened?". There plates were still full of food. Wasted good seafood pasta meals,and now my bday gathering was ruined. The cake was still in the middle of the table.
Now here the waitress comes asking me if we are having the cake when they come back. They were not coming back. They were gone. Left me with a look on my face like how could this daughter that I have done everything for humiliate me on my bday celebration? I could not continue to have the cake at that point. I got up and left crying of embarrassment and drove myself back home. Everyone looking as half the table left in a hurry and my oldest that brought the cake was embarrassed and upset at how my daughter has always treated me and now to do this.
Her father and I bought her a car years ago to bring these kids back n forth to school. Gave her a gas card just recently because she was using the excuse she could not bring the kids to school because she had no gas. I have bought clothes for these kids to keep them dressed as their fathers have nothing to do with them. The state pretty much said she made to much money when she got this nanny job that she gets no more pay for school so we now pay over 150.00 a week for daycare to make sure they are in school because we found she was not sending them due to oweing the school money.
I was so upset when I got home, I shut off her AOL account. I am now thinking of shutting off her phone also as I made sure she was on my plan so that if her car broke down that her and the kids could call for help. I have given to much to someone that dis-respects me. I have wrote all this to get it off my shoulders, but also wrote all this in hopes that if someone reads this. what they would do to a daughter that is so unappreciative. If anyone has any word of advice on what should be done I would love to hear it. I am right now going to just lay back, give no more money, shut off her phone and let her grow up and take responsibility on her own now. She claims her and her new BF know what they are doing even though she sleeps late every morning and the kids miss school due to her lazy A%%. I am very uspet right now as you can tell, but would like other suggestions of what to do. If there is anything ...... I am at a loss and very heartbroken that this happened to me, the one who has always been there for her. I am throwing in the towel and unfortunatly I will miss my two grandkids whom I love dearly and know will be affected by all this.
