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Wish I was home, we're at the hotel across the street. We're taking turns sitting outside CICU. He was moved today the other VC hospital this afternoon.

After spending most of the day in prayer, discussions with staff, doctors, calling my father's old heart specialist I've had to make another decision.

Tomorrow morning he'll be taken to the heart cath room where the doctors will attempt to patch, add support to his leaking mitral valve. That valve was replaced 26 months ago. Anything goes wrong and he's gone, this is a very risky procedure but it's reasonably easy on his body. There is basically no recovery time, just the cardiac recovery from his heart attack.
Yes is brain is slowly going but his other bodily functions are good. He's never had a stroke, low blood pressure, good cholesterol levels. His heart problem is caused by his ignoring his teeth all of his life. His teeth have caused all three of his heart attacks, destroyed his original mitral valve and has caused leakage of the replacement.

So I'll be off, try to sleep. So far the family has supported me 100% on my decisions. My oldest sister actually brought me lunch today so I could research my decision. I actually don't remember the last time she did something nice for me. It's in God's hands, wish I was going to be in the cath room tomorrow. I do have permission to be directly outside the cath room so I can watch on the cameras exactly what the doctors are doing. But I know the surgeon, we're in agreement.

Thank you for your prayers,
BB

Been thinking about you.

Thanks for the update, prayers.

BB I hope things go well for you...the last year of my Daddys life was a waiting game..he had given me his medical P.O.A. because he knew I would follow his wishes...it is a hard place to be you cannot please your Daddy,your family and your heart.....I had one of my nephews say ugly things about us letting Daddy go (he wanted him put on a feeding tube) tho he very seldom came to visit.....Know I am with you in prayers and thought.....

Thank you all, his heart cath has been delayed. Surgeon is at another hospital. So, we're shooting for 2:30.

I am really surprised that my family is supporting me on my decisions. When I took over for my mom my oldest sister was so hateful. She got up into my face but I held my ground. When she passed on my dad told my sister to shut up, that our mother was at peace. If Donna had her way my mom would of been on a vent. She had end stage renal disease, no legs, etc. She had so many health problems. She had put up a brilliant fight. Her last words, "I'm so tired, I'm willing to go, I'm not afraid, I see the clouds." The clouds, when the nurse told me about the clouds, it was so peaceful. My mom had a heart attack when my youngest brother was born. She saw clouds, she said she heard music, she felt at peace. It was not easy, it was so hard. But facing it, praying over it, doing my research, I know I made the right decisions.

It's easier this time around, I'm not in a strange city, the people here know me, I know the doctors. I'm better educated now.

If my father had any other major health problems I wouldn't be doing this. It's basically a stress-less procedure, if it helps good. If it fails we're all in agreement that we'll let God take over. One medication, one procedure, supportative care.

Thank you for your prayers, when this is all over I'm going to have a few stiff drinks.
BB

BB I suggest a few hours in Bummers honeys man cave it is an awesome place

Bummers honeys man cave.
1) Honey cave? You didn't read my post on bees?
2) Man cave? Are clubs included? Would my husband have a problem with my visiting a 'man' cave? Would Bummer have a problem with my visiting her man's cave?
Now don't get me wrong, if it's BYOB, I'M THERE!!!

I appreciate the thought, the offer. Having fun catching up with my brother and my dad's sister. I'm just waiting for my stepmother to finally say something. I need to unwind on someone, to let go, blow up. She almost never, ever disappoints me. I won't hit her I promise. Might slip her something. When she finally showed up yesterday she looked like she was high, she pops morphine like it's candy. The scary thing is that she's legal to drive.

Last month she came up to me at the home; "You don't visit him enough, you don't care. You're a horrible daughter" I looked her right in the eye, "You know, you're absolutely right", and I walked away. Left her absolutely speechless, it was lovely, so perfect. I walked around the corner and laughed. She didn't come back for nearly a week which upset my dad. But someone always came and visited him, every day, without fail. I made sure of that, he had someone come in, family, friend, pastor. The comment I made to her, that advice had come from my husband.
Some of the best advice he ever gave me.

On another note, my dad goes into the lab at 1430, procedure is expected to last 2 hours. I get to observe in the observation area (behind glass), it has the same monitors that the surgeons have. I can also talk to them and they can talk to me.
My dad's resting comfortably, he's been told what's going to happen, he'll never remember it though, and that's okay.

nah you gotta take your honey with you to the man cave....Bummer and her honey are great hosts......and its BYOB

Bodybuild when this is behind you we will pick a weekend and have you and your family over.

Hubby built the man cave in 2008, (It is a building, no bees included)

Wish I knew how to post pictures of the man cave.

it has a full kitchen,bathroom and dining area also room to wash and wax 4 cars...(and he had them in there when we got home from the funeral)and satalite TV.....a real man cave.......
BB hows your Daddy?